Cry it out our only option?

[Overthecamelhump]

Have tried Lucy Wolfe and pick up put down and dummies and white noise and gradual retreat and not a blind bit of difference.

Sleeps well in the day and still dicking about at night, sleeps badly in the day and dicks about at night.

So it does seem to be between hardcore CIO and surviving on three hours sleep a night. Both these seem pretty unpalatable but wondering if CIO might actually be kinder in the long term? Baby 9 months.

Oh and doesn’t actually want anything at night - refuses milk. Just wakes because.

Cry It Out is never a necessary option. Controlled Crying might, I don't know if this is what you mean?

CC - Leave baby to cry alone, go back at set intervals to comfort
CIO - Put baby to bed and leave, don't go back in until morning regardless of distress

At 9 months, I wouldn't suggest CC is necessary. There is usually something to change in either baby's behaviours, your behaviours or your expectations that could change to improve the situation.

What is actually happening?

Spell out to me what happens at naptime, with timings. And what happens in the night.

Also, what is your feeding routine?

Well my experience is that controlled crying with interval checks is quick, effective, didn't actually involve much crying, and resulted in a happier child and parents. So I say so it.