Holidaying with baby

[Emmamarie15]

Hi all. my baby is 3 months and currently only waking once in the night for a feed. we recently stayed over my sisters and she was in a travel cot. She really didn’t settle, she was awake every hour. About 6 weeks ago my friend asked me if I wanted to go to Cornwall with her in September. I didn’t have baby in a routine then but now I do and I don’t really want to take her now. but worried if I cancel I will lose her friendship. my husband works away so will be me her and baby but worried it will disrupt baby. or is it better to get her used to sleeping away from home? when my husband is back we are going to Norfolk with some friends but feel better about this as I can pop her in her room to sleep in the dark in a room and leave her to it (with monitor of course!) where as this is a hotel so when I put her down we will still be there. but then I think Cornwall will be fun. what would you do in my situation? We can get our money back but have spent £30 booking things which I don’t mind giving her. thanks guys!

It's up to you whether you go but if he r been careful about that panning ahead with a baby as it's annoying to have someone cancel on you.

Baby should be in the same room as you until at least six months old.

Maybe consider what EPU put baby to sleep in while you're away

Yes she does sleep in same room as me but she goes down early.

Hey OP, I'd give it a go. Perhaps gave a chat to your friend beforehand and let her know that if baby has a bad night you may need to catch up on some sleep here and there. But, I'd try. With my first, I held off on doing so much because I was obsessed with their routine. In hindsight, I wished I'd tried more. So, I reckon if you'd like to go and see your friend and she's cool with being flexible given your daughter will be with you...give it a bash.

I'm away with my baby at the moment and she's 3 months old. I've just accepted that the evenings will be noisier than she's used to and but that she'll still go to 'bed' around 10 - me too 🤣
She's currently sleeping in her pram bassinet on the floor next to me as that's familiar for her. I brought her white noise machine and swaddle so there's lots of familiarity still. It can seem daunting but if you cancel this, when will baby/ child have a routine you're willing to disrupt for a holiday? If the answer is never, then are you willing to never go away? Sometimes you've just got to go for it and hope for the best. Good luck

If you buy a couple of lengths of blackout lining, you can safety pin them to the curtains of the holiday house.

We've done a few baby holidays over the year.

While it can be a bit rough on sleep for the first day, they figure it out.

I still find it hard to sleep in a new bed. The first night is always a bit broken and then it's fine. I just assume my kids are the same.

I think you've misunderstood the SIDS guidance as you shouldn't be leaving her to it with a monitor, she should be asleep in the same room as you and then take her up to bed when you are prepared to go to bed.

I think you should go but remind your friend that the evenings won't necessarily be much fun for her, in case she's forgotten newborn life.

3 months is still young, I appreciate what you're saying about a routine but maybe you can get her to sleep in the pram (or sling) early evening so you can still hang out with the friend before an early night (eg 9.30pm). I assume the friend isn't sharing a hotel room with you?! Definitely talk to her anyway about how much you're stressed but still want to come and she'll appreciate your behaviour on the trip

Also @WTF475878237NC makes a good point - baby should be sleeping in the room you are physically in until 6 months+. That's why we had the Moses basket in the living room with us or pram if away with friends/family (or early night ourselves!) - it worked fine. But you shouldn't be leaving baby in the room in Norfolk alone anyway.

I'm not sure what exactly your worry is, that your baby will be disturbed, or other hotel guests, or your friend?

Tell your friend exactly what nights are like with your baby and your concerns. You can either find a work around or cancel, if I were you I'd cancel the hotel and find an Airbnb where you can hang out more easily. Either way it shouldn't end the friendship!

Go for it, good to get the baby used to sleeping in new environments.

What does your baby sleep in at home? You could try taking the moses basket or buying an additional mattress for the travel cot. It is harder when in a hotel room, although at 3m mine were fine sleeping in a noisier room. It was trickier later on when they had a proper bed time.

I'm the opposite of Goneblank38 and was insistent that baby's routine wouldn't disrupt my life, but all I ended up doing was making life harder for us both!

I would probably still go but expect baby not to be in routine.

I would go with it. Your LO is young and different sleeping environments the better plus they aren't generally worried about sound. My 6 month old likes the quiet to sleep to now (except her white noise) and I was always making noise around her when she was little thought she be used to it by now but nooooo 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️. Even when we're out I only get cap naps. Best place for her to nap is at home in her pram 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ I generally get long sleeps then.

Though I would warn your friend and say if my LO had a bad night. I will likely need to stay in the morning so I can encourage a good sleep, so you can prevent the whole overtiredness as then that affects ur day and night