What am I doing wrong?

[LyndaG]

It must be something really obvious that I am doing that I am missing so hopefully someone outside looking in can see...
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DD used to go to bed awake and self settle between 7pm - 8:30pm (when she started yawning and rubbing her eyes) till 8amish the next day she put herself in this routine at about 12 weeks....

About 4 or 5 weeks ago she started waking up and was consoled with a quick cuddle (put back down awake, self settle herself off to sleep) and would then carry on sleeping....gradually the wakenings have got worse and a cuddle doesn't work she is bolt wide awake again :roll: she is 25 weeks today....the last two weeks she has been worse than ever waking up 3 or 4 times but usually will go from midnight through till 7:30am - 8am...

I know I am lucky that she put herself in the routine and that she sleeps from midnight till the morning but once you get your sleep back you miss it when it has gone...

When she wakes we do our best not to bring her back down but when you are spending 30mins or so rocking her side to side then trying to put her down her starting crying again drama queen already

Things that have changed since this waking started she has been sitting unaided and solids have slowly started....

I had dropped baby massage as she was grisly when I try to start it :roll:

I have tried cluster feeding in the eves which is what I always did and helped her get through the night, however she often refuses the bottle after a couple of floz......

I have tried bringing her evening routine forward doing bath, feed, bed earlier then tried pushing back to no avail...

I stopped giving her solids after 2pm no avail...

We have done sort of controlled crying leaving her for max a min but she gets herself into a right state and takes longer to resettle!

I am at a loss as to what I can do next? I know it could be related to teething she has other "symptoms" but it can't be like this all the time I thought teething symptoms came and went? But hey i am a novice so please correct me if I am wrong ;D

Any ideas?

Thanks in advanced..

Am I reading it that her wakings are mostly in the evening?

No idea , really (sorry!). If she is waking later in the night /early next morning, I would say it might be hunger related and just up the amount of solids and give them after 2pm.

Good luck, will be interested to see what others can suggest (-:

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Thanks for the responses she falls asleep when we give her the bottle after the bath then its like she is napping as she only manages to sleep for 1.5hrs..... I offer the bottle when she wakes up but she refuses

I have given her food after 2pm she appears no better or worse for it

She will usually finally accept more milk about 11pm....

her hands are sometimes cold in the morning (sleeps in longsleeved vest, baby gro and sleeping bag) night wakings she isn't cold ...

Last night she kept waking till about 1:30am woke at 8am this morning but I left her be as she was chatting to herself and she dropped off back to sleep till about 10am....so I then have only let her have 2 15 mins naps so far today and I am trying this and going to do the bath as late as 8:30pm tonight to see if that helps - I will feed her about 7pm food .....previously dinner had been at 5pm ish for her....

any suggestions welcome

Don't deny her sleep in the hope of getting her to have more sleep when she is under one - it will be more likely to disrupt what sleep she does get and leave her very ratty.

Hi, it may be a temp sleep regression ... read this. DS had one just before week 19 (for about 3 weeks) and has improved slightly since then - at 5 months he still wakes but for different reasons. If its a sleep regression, wait a couple more weeks and you should see an improvement.

Alternatively, DP's SIL has always found that giving their 16 month old Weetabix for tea means she sleeps through. Anything else and she wakes. You could try substituting for porridge and see what happens.

again no sugestions but our story is very similair to yours and if you check the June 2007 post-natal threads you may find this is a common theme.

If you've tried everything obvious - hunger, getting too hot/cold, dirty nappy - and it sounds like you have then I can only suggest you invoke the three most useful words of parenthood - it's a phase.

There was an interesting link on a thread a week or so ago which suggested what you are hinting at, that a baby's sleep is more disturbed when they are learning something new such as sitting unaided. I'll try and find it.

Bringing our DD into bed with us is the thing which works for us. I have also been blaming teething for bad sleep and everything else you can think of since she was about 10 weeks old .

I don't know what the answer is, but I would suggest you try different things one at a time. Only then can you tell what is making a difference.

Isn't it frustrating I just want stability back and normality so far she has been in bed 1hr and has woken once

Fingers x for a peaceful night for one and all