Nightmare bed move

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Ellie0118 · 22/08/2021 20:17

I posted the other week about moving my 2 year old (27 months) into a bed. We did it last Sunday and it has been HORRENDOUS ever since. She is crying forever before she goes to sleep. She is awake crying in the night numerous times and has been up for the day most mornings at 5. If it was just her I'd definitely persevere but we have a 6 month old who is waking up too because the screaming is so loud.
My question is shall I just let her go back in the cot? It's a bit of a pain and would mean buying the baby a cot but I just feel like she's obviously not ready and the fact that it's effecting the babies sleep is driving me insane. I wouldn't be as fussed if it was just our sleep.
Or is it a backwards step?

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EducatingArti · 22/08/2021 20:30

Is she scared of falling out. Have you got a bed guard or foam thing that goes under the sheet?

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Ellie0118 · 22/08/2021 20:40

@EducatingArti

Is she scared of falling out. Have you got a bed guard or foam thing that goes under the sheet?

Got a bed guard up and she goes on all day about wanting to go and see the bed. But last night she said to my mum out of nowhere that she doesn't like it. Then said to me to me today " I not like to sleep in my bed, I want my cot back"

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rolyisntittimefor · 22/08/2021 23:17

Could it be more to do with the fact her cot was taken and given straight to baby (i assume this is what happened?)

Maybe it's not so much about the sleep... I'd try lots of fuss and praise of her, let her choose new bedding, perhaps a special teddy or something and hammer home the "you're a special big girl" element!

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Ellie0118 · 23/08/2021 06:29

@rolyisntittimefor

Could it be more to do with the fact her cot was taken and given straight to baby (i assume this is what happened?)

We dis choosing the bedding, new teddy, new pj's. We also purposely did it more than a month before the baby will actually move into the cot too so she didn't see it as her cot being taken away for Rosie and we haven't said anything about Rosie having it. Although she does keep telling us that "baby Rosie" should have her cot. We haven't even put it back up yet so she doesn't see it in another room.

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NinDS · 23/08/2021 06:36

I personally think you need to persevere with this now that the move has already been made. Is the bed ip against the wall with bed guard one side or in middle of room with bed guard on two sides? Just this can make a difference to how ‘safe’ she feels in it. Is she still going to bed at the same time as she did before? Have you tried staying with her while she settles down in her bed? It’s very difficult and she probably wasn’t quite ready but I feel that if you were to go back on this now, you could have the same problem further down the line. Good luck and keep us updated on how you get on.

FATEdestiny · 23/08/2021 23:35

I suggest you go back to the cot.

I'd avoid moving to a bed until st least the 3rd birthday, if at all possible. For exactly the reasons you've found - not being emotionally developed to cope with the change. Moving from cot to bed shouldn't be difficult, traumatic or even cause any disruption at all... if you do it when child is ready.

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