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Putting a baby into another room to sleep before 6 months

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jessieb90 · 16/08/2021 21:42

Hey guys,

Hope you're all well and had a fab weekend.

Just wanted to get everyone's opinion on this topic. My DS is 9 weeks tomorrow and he has almost grown out of the Moses basket that he sleeps in, in our bedroom! I legit reckon he has another 2 weeks (3 tops) and my partner is saying there's no point in buying a next to me (or something like that) for the next 3 months as it's a waste of money.

We have a fantastic baby monitor and my mum (who keeps telling me all 4 of us kids were in separate rooms after 4 weeks and "you all survived") also agrees with my partner but I'm not sure I feel comfortable.

Have any of you ladies moved your LO into their nursery before 6 months, and if so how old were they?

Do you think I'm maybe overthinking this and should just put him in his own room when he's outgrown the basket?

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Airplanes · 16/08/2021 21:46

We did. DD has really good hearing and when she was a tiny baby she'd stir or wake up every time we moved. All 3 of us were exhausted. I worried about it but we had a breathing monitor under the mattress and a video monitor. She's 6 now and would very much like to be back in our room

Airplanes · 16/08/2021 21:47

I think she was probably about 8 weeks old

Popskipiekin · 16/08/2021 21:49

Only you can decide this. The advice is out there to read - it probably wasn’t around when you and your partner were babies. Loads of women on mumsnet (me included! ) will have put their babies in a separate room from a young age (I actually moved DS across the hall way - both doors open but still, not same room - when he was 2 days old! And that was 6 years ago… I wasn’t aware of guidance, plus he was a bloody noisy baby) and will be able to say they survived … but there will be lots of sad stories out there too.
You can hire one of those next to me things if you’re unsure about moving him this young.

FATEdestiny · 16/08/2021 21:52

Just put a normal cot in your room next to your bed. That's what most people do.

If you want, you can remove one side off any normal cot and butt it up to your bed to make s bedside cot.

Room sharing with your baby is to prevent SIDS death. Babies who stop breathing don't make any sound. So a monitor is irrelevant.

AliasGrape · 16/08/2021 21:52

The guidance for keeping them in the room with you is for a reason and it has nothing to do with monitors. It reduces the risk of SIDS (non monitor does this) - it’s thought that having you in the same room helps the baby to regulate their breathing and prevents the baby from going into too deep a sleep. Those are just suggestions to be fair, I’m not sure it’s known why it reduces the risk, just that it does.

From here www.basisonline.org.uk/room-sharing/ …

A large study looking at SIDS cases in 20 locations across Europe estimated that 36% of SIDS deaths could have been prevented if the baby had slept in a cot in the same room as the parents

I personally wouldn’t have risked it. But then I bedshared and wasn’t able to breastfeed which is also advised against. It’s important to do your research and make an informed decision I think.

Wizzbangfizz · 16/08/2021 21:53

We did, first DC was in nursery at 8 weeks and DC2 6 I think from memory. Everyone slept much better - both of mine were like a pair of snuffly pigs - their room was directly opp mine and we had the angel care monitor thingy. You will have lots telling you it's too dangerous but so what is right for you!

LividLaVidaLoca · 16/08/2021 21:53

Survivor bias isn’t helpful here.

Tiny babies regulate their breathing by being in the same room as their carers.

A normal monitor isn’t a substitute here as a baby that stops breathing won’t make a noise.

WTF475878237NC · 16/08/2021 21:54

I couldn't justify this in your shoes OP. My next to me was £25 on Facebook marketplace. No reason to take a risk with your precious baby!

NickyOy · 16/08/2021 21:55

My son outgrew his moses basket at about 3 months and we had no room in our bedroom to put anything else in for him to sleep in. So we had to put him in his own room with a baby monitor. He was sleeoing through the night by then which meant that putting him in the room was no bother.

Tinpotspectator · 16/08/2021 21:58

I wouldn't. I'm not sure it's safe.

RubyGoat · 16/08/2021 21:58

We borrowed a bedside cot, bought a new mattress for it. Glad we did as DD was such an extraordinary wigglebum that she needed a cotbed at 4 months. No room for the cotbed in our room, so she went into her own room. Slept through for the first time, that night, as she had much more space.

Piccalily19 · 16/08/2021 21:59

I was desperate to move our baby as soon as I could as I’m such a light sleeper, but I couldn’t get over the SIDS risk so held out until he was about 5 and a half months (when he really really couldn’t fit in his next to me cot anymore).
Are you planning on having more kids? Could think of a next to me cot as an investment for the future? Or buy a second hand one and just get a new mattress?

Imcatmum · 16/08/2021 22:02

Up to you. You are the parents. It's only guidelines. There is risks in everything we do. Up to you to decide what risks to take that suit your family and practicalities.

MotherOfCrocodiles · 16/08/2021 22:05

If you was her in with you, keep her in with you, or you will feel sad!

If you were waking each other up and needed your space back, that would be one thing, but if you want her near you but she is too big for basket- just buy a second hand side sleeper as pp said.

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jessieb90 · 16/08/2021 22:10

Thanks for your opinions guys. Planning on one more probably so worth an investment as some of you have said x

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LakeShoreD · 16/08/2021 22:15

Mine moved into their own rooms at 3-4 months and we went from no one getting much sleep to babies getting a full 12 hours pretty much overnight. I don’t regret my decision. But only you can make this decision for your family. Forget about the baby monitor though. No matter how fantastic it is, it does nothing to reduce risk. Even if it’s a breathing monitor like the Owlet sock, it will only tell you after an even has occurred. Nor should anyone telling you ‘I did it and it was fine’ influence you. Maybe I’m misreading you but you don’t sound all that comfortable with it. If it’s primarily a space concern then I’m sure there’s a solution like rearrange the furniture or buy a travel cot.

ronswansonstache · 16/08/2021 22:19

Could you get a travel cot and put it next to your bed? The travel cot will have better longevity than a next to me crib, although as some PP have stated you can get a next to me second hand for about £30-£40.

MyMabel · 16/08/2021 22:20

I moved DD at 3 months into her own room because she slept though and we ended up just disturbing her sleep by creaking around on floorboards.

Next baby will likely sleep with us until 6months at least unless they’re as good a sleeper.

MuchTooTired · 16/08/2021 22:21

I put my DTs in their bedroom next door when they were 8 weeks. They’d outgrown the next to me crib and kicked each other to bits so neither of them were sleeping. We had the angelcare monitors.

It’s against all guidelines and recommendations, and was when mine were small (3 years ago), but I had no other choice really. With hindsight I’d probably have tried to move one of their cots in to our room, but I didn’t think of it and by the time I read it on here they were old enough for their own room anyway!

emmaluggs · 16/08/2021 22:27

My first I was pretty strict with the rule, my second from 3 months he just would not settle in the livingroom and he went upstairs for the first part of the evening with me checking regularly, he was in our room overnight though. It’s anecdotal evidence using other people that we’re ok, whereas as I can name 3 people who have lost children to sids. The risk is the same regardless of your pool of people you use as evidence, the risk is the same. Only you can decide this, if you’re not comfortable have a look at moving furniture around etc. I bought my next to me crib second hand then bought a brand new mattress and was less than half the price.

physicskate · 16/08/2021 22:38

When dd outgrew her Moses basket at about 9 weeks, she moved into her room. I moved with her. I slept on a foldaway for most nights for the better part of a year!!! As I was breastfeeding and dd woke ever 45 mins - 2 hours until she was 15 months. Was just easier to be in with her (and I'm generally a 'path of least resistance kind of parent.')

CourtneyCox2021 · 17/08/2021 07:09

My LO grew out of her moses basket within a week 🤦🏼‍♀️ long baby. I used side crib - like someone suggested fb market place. Also bring cot into room? I use a travel cot as I can't get a cot in our room, and travel cot is movable. If your LO was like 2 weeks away from 6 months I could perhaps get on board. But I'm too worried about sids risk 🤷🏼‍♀️ plus your be going out your room quite a few times a night. Not sure I could be doing that. Love it when my LO needs something she's right next to me 😂 I'm lazy in the night x

CourtneyCox2021 · 17/08/2021 07:12

Though I do like to have my dinner in peace (guilty pleasure) my LO 6 months soon. Last couple weeks will have dinner while she's upstairs but I'm up and down like a yoyo

Justgettingbye · 18/08/2021 20:25

I think my first went in at 6 weeks after she outgrew the basket (she was over 9lb) and my second was probably 10 weeks when he outgrew the same Moses basket.

We all slept better and it worked for our family. Probably not linked but they both go through the night with no issue.

All you can do it take on board the advice and make your own decision.

Uhhuhuh · 18/08/2021 20:37

Couldn't live with myself if something happened

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