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2 year old won’t stay in bed

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Knittingupastorm · 08/08/2021 18:42

DD turned 2 in June and has been in a bed a few months. The last few weeks at bedtime she simply will not stay in bed. She’ll happily let us close the door but she just pulls out all her toys, lays all her books on the floor, throws her pillow around etc. And the eventually collapses into sleep somewhere.
Should we just let her carry on? She’s always miserable in the morning, I think due to lack of sleep, but I don’t know how to make her lie down any sooner. If we stay in there with her, she will just run around anyway. To cuddle her in bed would involve pinning her down! She does still breastfeed in the evening but never to sleep.

We used to stay with her, with the condition that we’d stay as long as she stayed in bed, which she was happy with and she would drift off. Now she doesn’t care, tells us to close the door, and cracks on with making the room a tip and absolutely exhausting herself.

Should we just leave her to it?

(In a really annoying twist, come morning she will sit in her bed and cry for us. That’s when we’d be perfectly happy for her to get out of bed and play alone!)

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FATEdestiny · 08/08/2021 20:10

This is a behaviour issue. You have to treat it like any other unwelcome behaviour - be firm and consistant.

  • Clear expectations communicated to her.
(You must lie in bed at bedtime)
  • Very firm boundaries
(I will never accept anything other than lying in bed at bedtime).
  • Consistent consequences
(Return to bed immediately every time she gets out of bed)
  • Consistency
(Repeat 976 gazillion times. She will eventually get that you will not be swayed)
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