4mo night wakings

[bunhead34]

My 4 month old is still waking four times a night, today she has been up since 4.30 and seems to have decided it's time to get up 😭
She is going down at around 8, and first waking is at around 11.30/12.

I try to get 3 daytime naps out of her, but the most she will do is usually around 40mins.

What can I do?! I am really struggling
It has always been like this, so I don't think it's sleep regressions.

She is EBF.

I’d say that’s pretty normal. As a baby I woke every two hours and took an hour to consume milk, my little one woke every two hours! As she got older it switched to every four hours and our day often began at 4am, then 5am and so on as she got older.
By age 3 she was getting up at 6am.
What are you hoping/aiming for?

This seems pretty normal but the sleep deprivation is near impossible to get used to. Both our DC stopped waking in the night when they were five years old. They both had very structured routines but that's how often it naturally took for them to sleep through. It's ageing and exhausting. Just keep at it is all you can do I reckon.

How do you cope?

With great difficulty lol sleep when the baby sleeps (I never could). I just got used to very limited sleep, it doesn’t last forever but it’s brutal! Eat well, take baby out in pram, do you have anyone that could have baby overnight?

No, I'm breastfeeding and she wants fed every time she wakes up anyway.

Off to eat a load of cake!

Its normal, it will pass x

Things will improve, definitely eat as much as you can!

Pretty normal. For us, for a while it was 10+ wake ups. My first still woke up last night 3 times and she's just turned 4. My youngest is 2.5 and 6m so she suddenly went from washing 2-4 times to mostly sleeping through.

As hard as it is, I think your baby is sleeping pretty much like babies of that age sleep. It will get better in a while, then worse, then better and hopefully eventually stay at good. It's a meandering road.

My 4 month old is the same. I’m utterly exhausted.

Another saying pretty normal. My 2 year old sometimes wakes that frequently. I coped by cosleeping, going to bed when the baby goes to sleep on a evening and when I had my first by napping with her during the day and napping at weekends when DH could look after the kids.

I'm at five months, ebf with exactly this. We're not having night stretches more than 3.5hours and day naps are 45 min average.
Night time wakes are a quick feed, always less than ten minutes and then back down to sleep.
I'm hopeful that solids will help.

No advice sorry, just solidarity!

Unfortunately this is normal. My babies always wake every 2 hours until at least aged 12 months.

Co sleeping is the only way I coped.

It’s so hard, you have all my sympathy. We have had an awful road with sleep but my DS is now sleeping really well at 11 months (for how long we’ll see!) so there is hope! I resorted to co-sleeping at 4 months as it was the only way to get enough sleep to cope, it didn’t reduce the wakings really but it meant I could doze while he breastfed. We did get him into his own cot at 8 months when he started crawling and being very wriggly overnight so If you have baby in your bed now it doesn’t mean you won’t get them out until they’re 3 which I was worried about!!
Is your DH helping you get plenty of rest? Will baby take a bottle of expressed milk? On weekends my DH would take baby at about 6am and give him his next feed in a bottle so I could get a good 4/5 hour chunk which helped, when he was working if we’d had a really bad night he would take him for an hour or so before work so I could just have an hours sleep on my own with the duvet pulled up to my chin.
It is really, really hard. Sleep deprivation put me in a really dark place so don’t think us saying it’s normal is in any way belittling how hard this is. Make sure you’re well fed and hydrated, and getting out in the fresh air does help!