14 month old refusing naps

[SleepIsForTheDeadAppar]

Morning,

For about the past month (but feels foreverrrrr) my 14 month old has been pure refusing naps and on top of her sleep absolutely rubbish on the night as well (always have) I am drained and need advice.. literally any advice that may help 🙈 health visitors are naff with any kind of help but not sure what I’m expecting from them any as I guess it’s kinda difficult with every baby different. Gah!

My toddler wakes at around 7:30am and use to nap between 11am/11:30am for approx 2 hours and then would be awake until bedtime around 7pm (she hasn’t had a second nap like recommended since 11 months). I use to put her to bed at around 7pm and she would sleep until about 10/11pm and then just keep waking up until point where I’m so knackered that I’d give in and sleep in her room with her but on a single bed. I now put her to bed more often than not at 10pm and she will sleep until about 2am and the same pattern is off again.

Everything is honestly just awful as she’s so so so full on that I cannot get anything done with her not napping. My relationship is starting to be a bit meh because I literally cannot show anything towards my partner because there’s just no time to. We don’t even really sleep in the same bed. We can’t do anything because DD just takes all our attention.

I’m just feeling defeated. I just wish she’d sleep so I could have a hour or two for the sake of my sanity. My partner works long hours and spends weekends seeing his children from previous relationship so it’s difficult handing her over to him and doing my own thing because all she wants is me and kicks off and then I feel guilty because his little time with DS is naff.

Thanks

Have you tried laying her down in the buggy and going for a quiet walk. I can get a little bit extra when we get back by parking the buggy in the porch till she wakes !

@Skyla2005

Have you tried laying her down in the buggy and going for a quiet walk. I can get a little bit extra when we get back by parking the buggy in the porch till she wakes !

Hi,

DD use to fall asleep in the pram when I went out all the time but last few months she won’t fall asleep in the pram anymore. She’ll just get angry and want out. It’s becoming such a nightmare. I know it’s only a phase until she’s older but it’s just exhausting!

You're at a bit of a junction here. There are two completely opposite ways to get more/better sleep.

● Embrace cosleeping full time. Everyone will sleep better. This could be with your DG aswel, doesn't need to be in a seperate room to him.

● Sleep train. Teach her to go from awake to asleep in the cot, every time.

The main cause of your problems right now us inconsistency. You're doing both the above, inconsistently, so neither are working.

DH*

@FATEdestiny

You're at a bit of a junction here. There are two completely opposite ways to get more/better sleep.

● Embrace cosleeping full time. Everyone will sleep better. This could be with your DG aswel, doesn't need to be in a seperate room to him.

● Sleep train. Teach her to go from awake to asleep in the cot, every time.

The main cause of your problems right now us inconsistency. You're doing both the above, inconsistently, so neither are working.

I completely agree with you. Even though I may come across as oblivious, I do actually see that I’m the main cause of this issue that I’m currently having. I’m not saying I have it more difficult than anyone other parent but I’m just struggling. I have tried the whole being consistent thing but she is such a fighter that I end up giving in after 3 nights of next to no sleep because my partner doesn’t help with anything at night and I don’t have anyone else who could help E.G having her for a hour or two in the day so I could catch a bit of shut eye. I know the answer is probably “well you’ve hit a brick wall then” but just kinda wanted to reach out and see if anyone in a similar boat had any suggestions that I may not have thought of.

It’s just difficult trying to keep everyone happy. My partner isn’t more important than my daughter but I just feel he’s growing distant from me because we can’t be how we were before our DD. I assume every relationship changes after a baby but it’s just pressure from every which way I turn. Gah!