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Ds shoving against me when I try to bounce him to sleep

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lavenderandwisteria · 31/07/2021 19:54

For ages, sitting on the yoga ball and bouncing with white noise playing was the guaranteed way of getting ds (7.5 months) to sleep.

He’s now started to shove against me with his hands, nearly flinging himself out of my arms.

I don’t know how else to get him to sleep, with the result that he’s now rolling around his playmat.

Help?

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RandomMess · 31/07/2021 19:56

Perhaps it's the time to ditch current sleep props/associations and go for white noise, him in his cot post bath and feed?

I did pick up put down with no crying and got there after a few days?

GintyMcGinty · 31/07/2021 19:58

I agree with pp time to think about putting him down to sleep in the cot. The way you are going sounds like lots of work and not great for the long term.

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lavenderandwisteria · 31/07/2021 19:59

I know but he just won’t - it’s so stressful. He honestly will stay up all night.

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PineapplePatsy · 31/07/2021 20:01

He will sleep eventually, they all do. I would ditch the props too.

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lavenderandwisteria · 31/07/2021 20:02

Just CIO then? I’m erring towards that. I’m a desperate woman

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RandomMess · 31/07/2021 20:02

Have you a partner? Can you book time off work and accept it will be a tough week or two?

Dozer · 31/07/2021 20:03

Sympathy, DC1 was difficult a bit like this. Didn’t have much of a ‘body clock’ at that age. Agree with PPs - try other methods.

Michellexxx · 31/07/2021 20:03

I agree with pp. he will sleep, you need to get rid of these props. Look up just chill mama on Instagram. She gives good tips. You need to be confident in your choice and in the fact he will go to sleep, and stick with it. It seems impossible, but he will do it.

RandomMess · 31/07/2021 20:04

No not CIO

Read up about pick up put down.

They squawk you pick up and hold/comfort until they are calm and then put them back down. Repeat 50-50,000 times until they lay in the cot not crying/screaming.

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lavenderandwisteria · 31/07/2021 20:05

I’m still on ML. His sleeps been dreadful recently but the one silver lining was he was easy to get to sleep, albeit he’d wake up hourly, but now I can’t even get him to sleep!

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RandomMess · 31/07/2021 20:08

To him he needs bouncing to get to sleep, that's his sleep association so he wakes up hourly because he needs the bouncing every time he come into the light sleep part of his cycle.

3ormorecharacters · 31/07/2021 20:09

I agree with PP that confidence is important. There are other ways than CIO, but they all take a certain amount of perseverance. The key is to keep telling yourself that you are the one in charge, and he will go to sleep eventually. He really won't stay awake all night!

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lavenderandwisteria · 31/07/2021 20:09

I seriously think he’ll be up all night. I’ll report back if I’m wrong.

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GailTheFish · 31/07/2021 20:12

We were in a similar situation with DS1 at around 7 months and did some gentle sleep training when bouncing on a gym ball was becoming more and more difficult to get him to sleep. You don’t necessarily have to do CIO though - we used a sleep consultant but the basic gist was to go from bouncing to holding them in arms without moving, to then lying down while holding them, to lying them down with you next to them, to putting them in a cot but with you in a chair etc, doing each stage for a few days. We used white noise at the same time, and got into a clear bedtime and nap routine as well. There was a bit of crying along the way, but nowhere near as much as I was expecting - and TBH he was crying a lot while we were trying to bounce him to sleep too! We went from full time bouncing for every sleep to being able to put him down and leave the room in around 3 weeks. Good luck - I remember it being so stressful and thinking that neither of us were ever going to sleep again, but you will do! I have never wanted to use or see a gym ball again though…

yknaps · 31/07/2021 20:22

We had similar ~10 months. Feeding (me) and bouncing (my partner) weren't working anymore - she was pushing away and getting worked-up. And not falling asleep. With the help of a sleep consultant we managed to get her self-settling. As PP said, it's not without stress but it does work. They won't stay awake all night. We did put down in cot, and leave for 30, then 60 then 90 seconds. But only return after that timeframe if they're really crying- not just shouting / babbling etc. Then extended to 1, 2, 3 minutes. It took a few days. I don't mean to sound glib as I know it's incredibly stressful. But def worth a try. Good luck x

User0ne · 31/07/2021 20:27

Do you have a sling you could take him for a walk in?

I've got 3dc, they all go through phases of being easy/difficult and changing.

I don't know anyone who hasn't slept since they were 7mo so my bet is you'll come out the other side

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lavenderandwisteria · 31/07/2021 20:27

I was wrong and I have never been more thrilled to be wrong 😂 I do think we will have to look into a sleep consultant though, if the situation doesn’t improve.

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RandomMess · 31/07/2021 20:28

It's really tough

RandomMess · 31/07/2021 20:28

Has he gone to sleep already

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lavenderandwisteria · 31/07/2021 20:47

Staying asleep is another matter but I’ll take going to sleep, for now!

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yknaps · 31/07/2021 20:47

@lavenderandwisteria

I was wrong and I have never been more thrilled to be wrong 😂 I do think we will have to look into a sleep consultant though, if the situation doesn’t improve.

He's asleep!! That's great news. Hopefully you can build on this in coming days 🤞🏼

BackforGood · 31/07/2021 20:48

I know once you get into a cycle of sleep deprivation, you'll try anything in desperation, but, tbf, he's probably been feeling sea sick

Glad you were proven wrong

yknaps · 31/07/2021 20:48

@lavenderandwisteria

Staying asleep is another matter but I’ll take going to sleep, for now!

The more he gets used to falling asleep on his own, the less he ought to wake (that's the theory anyway 🤪!)

Starfleck · 31/07/2021 20:51

Ah good news OP, if he doesn't need to be held to sleep then hopefully on the road to being able to settle in the night when he stirs. I do remember lack of sleep feeling bloody endless, so I really hope it improves things.

Zarene · 31/07/2021 20:52

I bet he sleeps really well tonight - as he put himself to sleep first time, he'll be able to put himself back to sleep when he stirs in the night.

🤞 for you

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