4 month old won't sleep independently and needs ALOT of sleep

[MissLC]

Evening all,
My 4 month old won't sleep unless in bed, touching me or on me during the day. She'll sleep for short spells in the car or buggy, but not too long and wakes as soon as the movement stops. Any tips on how to transition her to next2me/not on me?
She also likes ALOT of sleep. She sleeps overnight fab other than to wake for feeds which is fine, has an hour or so nap an hour after waking up and then another nap sometime before lunch, then she wants to sleep between 2 to 4 hours every afternoon, followed by a short nap after our evening meal. Then sleeps from at least 8pm to morning as above. This means that I am also in bed then and spend no time with my husband. Is this amount of sleep normal do you think? It averages around 15 hours per day she sleeps. My nephew is a few weeks older and barely needs any day time naps.
Any advice would be really appreciated, I'm in bed already tonight
I've looked into various sleep programs that you pay for but have heard bad reviews about most of them!

Oh, and to add, she reaches out for me in her sleep so I can't just leave her once she is asleep

I can’t comment on her sleeping on you but I think about 15 hours is right for a 4 month old. My 4 month old sleeps 12 hours overnight and then two naps totalling 3/3.5hours.

I hope someone more helpful comes along soon!

Thanks @Newmummy9, maybe I should start tweaking her sleeping overnight then to try and get her to sleep longer then and to nap a little less during the day

Good day time naps prompt good night time sleeps so don't tweak too much

For getting her to sleep in the cot, you could try pick up/put down.

Have lots of sleep cues like a comforter, dummy and white noise (start using these for every sleep and snuggle the comforter between you and her when you feed her).

Do a little bed time routine - close the curtains, sing her a song, cuddle with the comforter, put the white noise on. Cuddle her until she is drowsy but still awake and then put her in the cot. Continue to pat or stroke her and shush/sing while she's in the cot.
If she gets really distressed, cuddle her again until she's calm but put her down before she falls asleep.
Continue until she's asleep (it might take an hour at first!) and hang round by the cot so if she stirs you can shush and pat again, picking up only if distressed and putting her down before she falls asleep.

Your daughter certainly sleeps very well but your problem is going up to bed with her at 8pm. Why not keep her downstairs with you until you are ready for bed, if you are around she will sleep anywhere.

At four months it's quite normal for a baby to want to be around mum/dad and not to be put in a room alone. She will change as she gets older but she is still very little. However there is no reason why you should have to go to bed as soon as it gets dark. Your daughter will be happy and secure with the television on, mum and dad talking in the background. Just as long as you are there.

Thanks for the advice @zoeydollie, will try this.

Mainly take her up then so as not to disturb her sleep when I do go up, I don't necessarily want to leave her in a room on her own but just if she'd sleep in her next2me upstairs or her moses basket downstairs so I could move without disturbing her or easily have a cup of tea it would be fab. We've been on holiday with family this week and they keep trying to tell me to get her off to sleep and go back downstairs (as its far too loud for her to sleep downstairs with games and other children around) and I've refused as she's too young and I don't want to jeopardise any progress or put her back even further

@zoeydollie can I just saya HUGE thank you for your advice?! The comforter has worked wonders! We're still working on it obviously as its only been a few days but this is the second day my LO has had her afternoon nap in a cot (with me in the same room) and she slept overnight in her next2me too! I feel like there's a light at the end of the tunnel and she'll get the hang of sleeping on her own when the time comes, so thank you!!