10 month old still waking every 1 hour

[StephHenley]

Hi there! I’m hoping someone might be able to help me.. I have a ten month old who has never slept thru the night, wakes on average every 1.5hours and it is just so painful. The odd time he has done a 4 hour stint but that’s rare. I’m really interested to know if anyone has experienced this and if/how/when the situation resolved and if you have any suggestions based on your experience?? Not keen on the crying out method, it just makes him super bad. Recently he’s been sleeping in my bed only but that doesn’t really improve his sleep compared to the cot. Thanks in advance 🤞🏼

My dd was the same until I stopped breastfeeding at 15 months. Literally the night after we stopped, she slept through and has since.

I slept in her room on a mattress next to her cot with the side of the cot down sometimes.

I honestly tried everything. My hv said, 'aw that sounds tough.'

You have my utmost sympathy.

How does he get back to sleep when he wakes? Like pp mine was breastfeeding back to sleep at every wake at 10 months and waking every 2hrs. I stopped and he slept through.

Hi OP sorry no advice I’m in the same boat but DS is only 8 months old. Sorry if this is a silly question but for those who said they stopped breastfeeding, HOW? 🤣 how do you stop? When they wake up at night what do you do to get them back to sleep?

I want able to breastfeed but he has a bottle maybe once or night which isn’t a problem of course. So he’s just waking up for I don’t know what reason! It’s like he doesn’t know how to sleep thru into a new sleep cycle. Teething has made it worse but even beforehand he was waking up about 8 times a night 😫

@CurlyT94 He was closer to 11 months when I stopped, his feeding felt less desperate hungry iyswim, so it was mostly comfort. I offered lots of cuddles, shushing etc. First few nights were rough, but much to my surprise he did go back to sleep in the end!

@StephHenley However he is currently getting back to sleep he is needing you to do every time. You can wait and he will link up cycles for himself or you can try and reduce the amount of input you give him to get back to sleep. It's so hard because you are coming from a place where I can imagine you are totally exhausted! I would also ask what his nap routine is like in the day? Is he getting enough sleep?

I know you say you’re not keen but the only way I improved this was sleep training; I was heading for a break down with lack of sleep

How does he get to sleep at nap time and bed time?

It needs to be the something he can do when he stirs in the night - if you rock/feed/cuddle him to sleeping then he will probably need that every time he stirs.

If he can go into his cot awake and fall asleep with a dummy, comforter or white noise, then he can do that in the night.

@CurlyT94 the only way I managed to stop was DH taking baby for 3 consecutive nights whilst I slept in another room with earplugs at 12 months old. 3 nights later, I’d fully stopped feeding (was only do evening and night feeds anyway at that time). If you are there, they cry even more as the milk is right there, almost like torture for them.

OP, we are exactly the same position as you and once the night feeding stopped things are much better and she sleeps through

@rosesandsalvias yes we are trying to reduce input in him getting back to sleep. Hard when it’s 2am and you have already been woken up 4 times and you feel like you’ll do anything to get him bk to sleep quickly 🙈

@Wjevtvha we were ready to sleep train when he turned 9 months but he’s had tooth after tooth come thru this month so leaving him to cry at the moment doesn’t seem right as he’s showing signs he’s in pain.
Might have to get back to it soon tho, ten months of broken sleep is no fun 😵‍💫

@CurlyT94 I stopped when our last feed has maybe 30 seconds. We looked at each of the and I said, 'that's it. We're done.' And she never asked (signed for milk).'

We had day-weaned for 5 months at that point as I was working full-time and she would never take a bottle.

She's over two now and still won't drink cow's milk. Have huge guilt!!

But it was time. I was also getting serious aversions to feeding.