11mo won't be put to bed by me but fine with DH

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Does anyone have any experience with this? When I put baby in cot to sleep at night he cries and screams and won't settle to sleep.

When DH puts them to bed he is fine and goes off to sleep well (at least within a couple of times).

He's fine for naps during the day, when I put him down.

It's hard as my DH works nights and isn't always around to help and I'm getting very exhausted (well we both are!).

Kids go through these phases.

I am guessing that at 11 months he has worked out you give him a lot more attention that your dh does, when he cries.

Or he is in the phases where babies/toddlers seem to prefer one parent to do certain things.

Is this recently?

From about 2 months old my DD never slept for me. I would have to put her in the pram/pushchair to get her to sleep.
DP would always just swaddle her, stroke her head for a few seconds and off she went.
If I tried to swaddle her she would scream blue murder!
Day time naps she would just fall to sleep on him.
I breast fed so through the night when she was new born I would feed her and DP would settle her down. I think DD just got used to it.
At almost 8 years old she still prefers it when it is DPs turn to do the bedtime routine.
It did get better though. I kind of took over bedtimes for a couple of weeks. It was never perfect but it did get easier.
Might be worth trying to stop your DH doing bedtimes for a short while?

No answer but just wanted to say I feel for you. We are in a similar situation but baby refuses to let DH put her down to sleep.

Has it been like this for a while ?

Thanks for all of your replies!

I'd say it's happened over the last week or so. I wasn't sure if it was separation anxiety. Just bathed him and put him to bed and he went off straight away but 5 mins later is playing with his toys in his cot.

He's also started kicking off when I pop him in his playpen, put him in his high chair and today didn't want to go in his car seat. The lad def knows what he does and doesn't want!

I breastfed until 6 months and he would fall asleep on me all the time. As soon as that stopped, he stopped sleeping on me. He isn't a cuddly baby, prefers his independence when falling asleep in his cot, doesn't like us to help him to walk etc etc.

Going to do the lions share of the bedtimes for the foreseeable and see how we get on. My husband and I do maybe half and half but he always ends up taking over when it's hard because I'm shattered having looked after him all day and he doesn't stop.

Hope everyone else's situation improves soon. Dunno about you all, but I really need an hour to chill before sleep as it's bloody hard work all day from 7am 😵‍💫😂

And he's awake and screaming 🙈