6 & 7 yr old sibling co sleeping

[Bur25]

Hi, so im step mum to two girls, they live full time with their dad, myself and their 20 month ( half) brother, and they see their mum her partner and 5 other siblings every other weekend.

Recently ive noticed that after visits to their mums the youngest climbs in to bed with her older sister, which is fine but she ends up pushing her sister right to the edge of the bed so shes hanging off the edge or on occasion has fallen out, she sometimes wakes up and says her neck or back or legs hurts or she is very grumpy and emotional ( this is how she gets when over tired!)

Tonight i moved the youngest back to her bed, but in the process she woke up very panicked and anxious, i lifted her into her bed and reassured her she was ok and gently told her she should sleep in her bed as theres not room for both of them in her sisters bed, she seemed to settle and has gone back to sleep.

Basically im wondering should i continue to move the youngest to her own bed if i find her in her sisters bed or leave them ?

They sleep in bunk beds the youngest on top , eldest on the bottom, so its hard to get her to her own bed without waking her up, theres not room in their bedroom for two singles or a double bed

TIA xx

Just leave them. If that's what brings her comfort and the other sister doesn't mind then let it be.

What are the sleeping arrangements at their mum's? 5 other siblings is a lot, are they sharing a bed at hers?

If there's space in their room, could you get them a high sleeper that is small double size, with a single underneath? That gives them options to share or sleep separately.

@NameChange30

What are the sleeping arrangements at their mum's? 5 other siblings is a lot, are they sharing a bed at hers?

If there's space in their room, could you get them a high sleeper that is small double size, with a single underneath? That gives them options to share or sleep separately.

I think they all have beds at their mums, as she has recently moved to a bigger house, theres no room in their bedroom at ours for that kind of bed :(

@gingerbiscuit19

Just leave them. If that's what brings her comfort and the other sister doesn't mind then let it be.

The problem is her disturbing her sisters sleep due to the bed not being large enough for the both of them, its not so much her minding its that shes not sleeping properly

What if you put them both in the bottom bunk on the night they return, but at opposite ends so their legs touch?

What if they swapped bunks ? Would the guard rail keep them both in when the younger climbed up to join the older?

I would keep moving her so she settles into her bed (if it wasn't affecting her sister I would think different). But I wouldn't worry about her needing her sister to get to sleep, she's just managing the transition I guess. It would be helpful if both parents could discuss her sleeping patterns but I realise this is not always possible.

Might it be easier to move the older, child into the top bunk once the younger one is asleep, as swap beds for the night. If she's happy to sleep by herself and only sharing to help her sister, she'll probably re-settle much faste and once you've done it a few times she might just start moving by herself if she wakes up uncomfortable in the night.

@Dilbertian

What if you put them both in the bottom bunk on the night they return, but at opposite ends so their legs touch?

What if they swapped bunks ? Would the guard rail keep them both in when the younger climbed up to join the older?

The younger girl is on the top bunk she climbs down but ends up pushing her sister out of bed, or she wakes up moaning , legs or back or neck hurts because her sister shoves her to the edge/ off the bed, i keep finding the younger one there, ive just put the eldest on top bunk heard a bang from up stairs she just came down to go toilet and said she fell out of bed just feel like its musical beds at the moment and they struggle to get up in the morning and get ready for school cause nobody's got a good sleep

@GoWalkabout

I would keep moving her so she settles into her bed (if it wasn't affecting her sister I would think different). But I wouldn't worry about her needing her sister to get to sleep, she's just managing the transition I guess. It would be helpful if both parents could discuss her sleeping patterns but I realise this is not always possible.

Ill try, but its quite difficult getting any sort of info like that

@Sprogonthetyne

Might it be easier to move the older, child into the top bunk once the younger one is asleep, as swap beds for the night. If she's happy to sleep by herself and only sharing to help her sister, she'll probably re-settle much faste and once you've done it a few times she might just start moving by herself if she wakes up uncomfortable in the night.

Yeah will try that, i dont understand why its suddenly started we moved into this house 4 months ago and its only been a couple weeks this is happening