Daughter crying in the night

[Kirl1988]

Hi my daughter is 4 next month, in the last week or so she has been waking up around 4/5am crying and wanting to come into my bedroom. The first couple of nights I let her thinking she was having nightmares. But now it's every night, my bf and I have tried to stop her coming in because we don't want her expecting it all the time. This morning she woke up at 4.30 and started crying, I went into her room gave her a cuddle and said it's not time to get up yet and for her to go back to sleep for abit longer, she went hysterical and cried on and off for the next couple of hours. I do have a 5 month old son who is currently sleeping in my room so that could be another reason for her behaviour. I said earlier that I thought it could be nightmares but she has not mentioned having them.
I'm just at a loss on how to handle the situation as no mother likes to see their child crying

You could let her have a ten minute cuddle in your room and then take her back to bed. It's a reasonable middle ground. Or just put her immediately back to bed and deal with the hysterics

Whatever you do be consistent. Every night the same thing needs to happen. I would be doing a quick cuddle in her bed and back to sleep. If she can't sleep maybe having a light on and she can look at books while she's getting ready to fall back asleep?

Bless her, she must be feeling a bit unsettled. I presume your bf is not her dad? If so she might be feeling pushed out if things with baby, mum and bf all in bed together and her alone in the next room. As she’s only 3 and still very little, I would sit with her for a bit until she drops back off again.

My bf is her dad sorry, yes will sit with her tonight if she wakes up see if that helps

Oh ok. I suppose she is possibly still feeling a bit pushed out with the new baby? When I had my youngest her big brother reverted a bit, started doing babyish things just to get my attention I think! I sympathise, 4/5am is not the start you want with a preschooler and a young baby.