OK..... need help....... is this going to last long???

[JARM]

DD1 is 3.4yrs

This is night 3 of no dummy, and to be honest, its been really easy - BUT - she now will not settle to sleep by herself.

I have to lay with her until she falls asleep, Im 39+5 pg, so however tempting it is to snuggle and snooze with her, once the baby is here, I wont be able to (unless he is a good boy!)

Will this last long do you think? Is this just because she is adjusting to not having the dummy to settle herself?

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

THis may last a while expecially as new baby is coming. It probably is combination of not having dummy and knowing baby is coming. Why don't you try a sticker chart to encorage her to go to sleep by self?

I would just say... (hope you don't mind!)

Binning the dummy now, just before arrival of ds, might be a bit tricky. Esp if he uses one in the near future.

Am speking from my own experience only, though

My mum binned my dummy just before my sister arrive and I spent all my time stealing hers!!

Is she asking for the dummy? If she is I would be tempted to give her it (even just in the short term) because if baby has one she may just steal it!!

This is it, she isnt asking for it, isnt bothered about it at all...... so Im reluctant to give it back, I think if she was upset by it, i would let her have it back!

Its just the wanting me to lay with her until she falls asleep! GRRRR

oh and baby isnt getting one - i refuse! Im sick of the sight of them!

Ah, Ok, if she isn't bothered not having one I would go along with that too.

Could you put a night light on and tell her she can look at a book herself until she feel sleepy instead?

And good luck keeping ds off one! (DD2 lasted 4 days)

You could try a gradual retreat method.

For a couple of nights sit at the end of the bed, then on the floor next to the bed for a few nights.... and so on.... until shes on her own.

oooh BS - does it work? Anyone tried it?

How long does it take?

I've never really tried it JARM (unless you count tip-toeing out of the room slowly as DC drop off to sleep ) but its one of those methods you regularly read about.

Never really done any sort of sleep training - think i need to research!!!

how about a lateral approach? I used to have terrible toruble getting my boys to settle until I was given a story CD of their favourite (nightgarden) and now they see it is a real treat to be allowed to listen to it as they go to bed - I just thought it might take her mind off the dummy.

heres some info. from a quick google -scroll down

Or start a thread with Gradual Retreat in the title -I'm sure lots of Mners have used it (as its probably on here that I read about it in the first place )

hmm am sitting outside my dd's room right now (3.6 yrs) in a gradual retreat pose. it's b*ks in the sense that she keeps coming out to see if i am there, which is hindering her sleep. also if i try to move even an inch from the original spot she gets angry and makes me go back. which i do rather than argue cos its making her more awake and therefore taking her longer to go to sleep. at least my wireless router works upstairs............fed up

oh and dd2 is crying - doing cc with that one

finally, both asleep at 930pm. can you believe it? actually baby went down at 7, it was just a little wake, but she wanted feeding, which kind of ruins the point of cc does it not? i dont know. but dd1 took 2 hours to fall asleep. this is totally usual and i am sick of it. now she wants me to sit with her - or outside her room, it is ruining my eve. i am just going to have to wake her at 6 or something stupid to get her to go down by 8. sorry i am not helping the op am i? just letting you know you are not alone!!!

what time does your dd go to sleep jarm? how many hours a night does she need? it seems mine onl needs about 10.5

mad

eygypt - if you continue to be consistent I'm sure it will get easier, keep with it. also at nearly 4 she should be able to read books while staying in bed, perhaps you could do sticker chart if she stays in bed and reads before sleeping. Also 10.5 hours is not to terrible but means they will both have to learn to occupy themselves for small amounts of time.

DD1 tends to go to bed about 7.30pm and is up anywhere from 4.30am(this morning) to 7.30am

Since the dummy went, mornings have been so early, not sure whats going on. Will not go back to sleep at all regardless.

Nights have got easier, usually only a couple of minutes now, which I can handle, but the mornings are now a completely different matter.

I GIVE UP!!!

hi, i think i have to accept she isn't going to sleep for longer than 10.5 hours and maybe get her up earlier in payback for an eve to myself. we have done the stickers, stars for staying on her own or not shouting mummy or coming out. it worked for a while at keeping her in her room but not getting her to sleep quicker. i think i need to just encourage the staying in the room bit and not worry about the time she is spending asleep. ho hum. i was always a night owl. i remember mum coming into me one eve when I had decided to rearrange my furniture, and saying 'for god's sake c**re what ARE you doing, it's midnight!'

payback

why don't you try the audio CD idea?