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Ferber method

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Bakingmom · 04/07/2021 11:26

I have posted this on another thread, but thought I’d put it out again to others. For context we have a one year who has been on a sleep strike for weeks now. We began the Ferber method of sleeping training last night. This is what we did when she was 6 months old. Back then it worked so well I’m about three days she was putting herself to sleep and sleeping through. I think she cried for a maximum of 45 mins the first night, with us going in to comfort at intervals.
Last night was a different story. It took me three hours to get her to go to sleep. She would pull her self sat up in her cot as soon as I would move my hand from her back or go to leave the room. After finally falling asleep at 9.30 (bedtime is usually 7) She then woke again at 2am and cried for the next three hours, until I brought her in to our bed. I was at breaking point as it just didn’t seem to be working. I know ST is all about consistency, so I will be trying again tonight, but I must say I’m absolutely dreading it. We are still breastfeeding for naps during the day because if I don’t do it she refuses to nap and then I know night sleep will be worse (if that’s possible).
Anyone else have a rough start with ST? Any tips about how to soothe her in the intervals, as we are trying to avoid picking her up, shushing and patting isn’t cutting it. Any encouragement or positive success stories to keep me from giving in with it will be very welcome.
Please no negative comments about sleep training

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 04/07/2021 11:29

We did it but when ds was much older. Wouldn't have worked with him when he was one. What's the issue and what is the sleep like at the moment?

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 04/07/2021 11:31

I've just seen you are BF,there's no way I'd do any kind of sleep training personally until you've stopped BF,I think it's too confusing.

Fantail86 · 14/07/2021 03:46

@Bakingmom have you introduced a comforter? It's the only thing that has helped when sleep training my 14 month old. I started giving it to her very deliberately at bed time a number of weeks before we started sleep training. It has definitely helped although isn't perfect...

arcof · 14/07/2021 03:54

It clearly didn't work the first time as you're having to do it again. Let that sink in. Leaving a 12 month old to cry for 3 hours is cruel. If you feel terrible about it, DONT DO IT. Try something else, anything else. It feels bad to you because it is bad.

She needs you, what's so bloody bad about that!!!

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