One year old still waking all night long

[Bakingmom]

My DD has never been a great sleeper. When we began putting her in her cot in her own room around 6 months old, we had a short stint where she miraculously put herself to sleep at the beginning of the night and would sleep through until morning. Then all of sudden the night wakings began again. She is now one and it’s gotten to the point where DH and I spend more time sat in her nursery holding her while she sleeps then we actually spend in bed. The sleep deprivation is unbareable. Please can someone give me any advance on what we can do to help her sleep or at least some glimmer of hope that things will get better. Very exhausted first time mum, feeling like a failure.

@Bakingmom I night weaned but carried on in the day (for a longgggg time)

The sleep deprivation is to a new level today. I got 3 hours sleep last night. DD woke crying at 3am and fell asleep on me while I sat in her room but wouldn’t let put her down in her cot. She did have her immunisations yesterday so I expected some grogginess. However, she would not let her dad hold her and screamed for me. Anyone else’s DC have a “favourite” parent and only settle for them? She’s so dependent it puts so much pressure on me. Very tired and upset today.

@Hollyhead did you bf? Did you find it hard to wean?

Found day weaning very hard, but night weaning super easy once DS learned that every wake up resulted in boring boo less Daddy with a beaker of water - about 4 days. I carried on feeding in the day for at least a year after that.

Would it be easier to have the cot in your bedroom?

Just an update here. We began the Ferber method of sleeping training last night. This is what we did when she was 6 months old. Back then it worked so well I’m about three days she was putting herself to sleep and sleeping through. I think she cried for a maximum of 45 mins the first night, with us going in to comfort at intervals.
Last night was a different story. It took me three hours to get her to go to sleep. She would pull her self sat up in her cot as soon as I would move my hand from her back or go to leave the room. After finally falling asleep at 9.30 (bedtime is usually 7) She then woke again at 2am and cried for the next three hours, until I brought her in to our bed. I was at breaking point as it just didn’t seem to be working. I know ST is all about consistency, so I will be trying again tonight, but I must say I’m absolutely dreading it. Anyone else have a rough start with ST?

I’m in a similar position to you OP. My nearly one year old is a terrible sleeper. Was up with her from midnight to 6am last night.

We did some sleep training at 6 mo the which worked for two weeks and then it’s just been awful since. Not sure I can bring myself to ST again as I can’t stand the crying.

I feel so physically and mentally ill today and know that it won’t get better anytime soon.

Just as a little warning, with the 12 month jabs they often have delayed side effects about a week afterwards, feel poorly, temperature, off their food etc. If you are set on sleep training, I wouldn't be starting any sleep training until 2-3 weeks post jabs for this reason.

I think you’re right @DoTheFandango ours is back to normal now and I think we’re three weeks post jabs.

Has yours had any vaccines OP?