Help, 12 month old awake for hours in the night

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Hi all, my 12 month old has never been a brilliant sleeper (I can count on two hands the amount of times she's slept through the night), and she often ends up in our bed part way through the night but the last few months she has needed a bottle part way through to get her back to sleep which I'm conscious of as I know she should be able to sleep through without a feed at this stage. But the last week or so even a bottle doesn't get her back to sleep and she is wide awake for a couple of hours. We are exhausted. Does anyone have any advice please? And is it really bad that she's having a bottle in the night? We give her lots to eat in the day but she doesn't have a massive appetite. She's still on two naps a day.

Make sure she has a good amount of milk throughout the day, as well as her 3 meals. This will help up her calories.

At bedtime and naptime, how does she go to sleep?

What's her usual naptimes?

Thanks so much for replying @FATEdestiny. She currently only has two bottles a day but I'll increase it. She used to go to sleep in her cot but she's a nightmare for standing up in it now and not going to sleep so we get her to go to sleep in our lap. Maybe this is part of the problem? After a feed in the night I used to be able to get her to fall back to sleep fairly easily but now she just wants to bounce around. I'm going back to work in a couple of weeks and I'm at my wits end as I can't cope on the broken sleep when I'm working.

Would 1000000% Nicola Watson of Child Sleep Solutions who transformed our son's sleep. Sounds like sleep training would be massively beneficial

She used to go to sleep in her cot but she's a nightmare for standing up in it now and not going to sleep so we get her to go to sleep in our lap. Maybe this is part of the problem?

That will almost certainly be the entire problem. I doubt calories have very little yo do with the wake up - it's comfort she's after.

You will need to teach her to lie down in the cot to go to sleep, which in a nutshell involves repeatedly keep getting her to lie down in the cot every time she stands up. Then repeating over and over again a bazillion times.

Definitely needs to go to sleep in her cot. We've been having the same problem with our 10 month old. A friend told me about split night which is basically, when baby is overtired, he is assuming that when he's put to sleep for the night, he's going for a nap (even if it is 6hours +)so when he wakes in the night, he thinks it's time to get up and it's very difficult to make them go back to sleep. We've been working really hard on day time naps as well as learning to self settle for a week or so and he's already so much better during the night. Not perfect but no more night time parties for more than an hour!

Did you solve this problem? We are in the same position and it's exhausting.