i think i want to put dd in her own room shes only 5months,should i wait till shes 6months?

[robinredbreast]

am i being selfish for thinking about putting her in her own nursery? should i just wait another month
she is a good sleeper but can be quite noisey heavy breathing and snoring

because she does sleep well i feel selfish and im worried about the risk of cotdeath and the guidelines say they should be with you or in your room for 6 months or is it 12 months?

Am I really awful to admit that my ds's were both in their own rooms by 6 weeks. With ds1 we couldn't fit the cot in our room and he'd grown out of his moses basket and with ds2 I just did what I'd done with ds1. They were both really noisy sleepers and I was getting no sleep at all - a complete nightmare when they were both sleeping through!!

nimnom....so did I!!!
Kicked out at 6 weeks, I couldn't sleep for all the snuffling, shuffling, squeaking, whilst he slept well! It was madness, and it wasn't how I imagined it, but it worked!
Well done rrb for sticking it out this long!

We kept dd in our room until she was 5 months. I was going back to work at 5 and a half months so wanted to get her settled before another big change of Mummy going away every day.

This time, we didn't have room for the twins in with us, so once they outgrew their moses baskets they went into cots in their own room at 15 weeks.

They have slept soundly every since - I however have spent many a night awake and with my ear pressed to the baby monitor to hear them breathing and trying to distinguish one baby's breathing from another

my dd was in her own bedroom by 8 months!....shouldve put her in there at 6 months but I wasnt ready!

hats off to you. ds was in nursery at 5 weeks (i was so tempted to do it at 1 week). he slept better and so did we. he is so noisy, only way i have survived!
guidelines say 6 months btw.

I have never shared a room with either of my 2- same as all that noise keeps me awake! so i am impressed you made it to 5months. do what is right for you. noone can tell you but i would encourage you to feel relaxed about not being selfish if you do decide to move her!

Guidelines say 6 months. DS slept in his room from 6 weeks.

He kept me awake, I kept him awake. A horrible vicious circle that was broken when he went into his cot in his room.

Do what you feel is right for both of you.

I shall watch this thread with interest as DS is 7.5mo and still in our room. Like Biglips I think it is probably me that's keeping him there but as he isn't sleeping through consistently it just seems easier to go across to the other side of the room to get him. However, people are starting to suggest to me that he might sleep better if he was in a different room...

ds was in his own room at 14 weeks, he was sleeping through and was keeping me awake with his noises while asleep, just get a good monitor to keep next to your bed.

We put DD in her own room at 4 weeks and never looked back. We all slept MUCH better for it.

I was initially reluctant, but as DH pointed out I wasn't in the room with her for all day time naps, nor on the rare occassions that early on that she went to bed before us.

we put ds in his own room at 5 months but bought a sensor monitor to give us peace of mind - probably all down to PFB tendencies but it was good for us! The monitor was £60 and recommended here on MN!

dd was in her own room at 8 weeks, there wasnt the '6 month rule' 4 years ago thou, she slept thru the night i didnt see any point in her being in our room

I moved ds into his own room at 4 months, because he was disturbed bu me, I was disturbed by him, a vicous circle. I was reluctant, but he was only next door, and i do keep the monitor next to my bed

Moved ds out at 3 months

Go for it! As long as you've got a decent baby monitor it's fine. DS was in his room from about 7 weeks I think after it got ridiculous our room being off-limits from 6.30 at night and us barely breathing as we went to bed to avoid waking him up. None of us slept well either, much better immediately for all of us once we did it.

Also meant he was used to his room from an early age so there was no 'transition to cot' trauma.

Moved my DD out when she was 2months old. Had a baby monitor.

I moved mine out of my room when they were just under 1 month because their grunting was driving me mad. We had a baby monitor and it did none of them any harm.

DS1 went into his room at 5 weeks old - he snored and snuffled so much that the few precious hours of sleep we were allowed to have were punctuated by him sounding like a snuffling pig!
DS2 went into his room at the end of week 1 we held out wondering if we had moved DS1 too soon but there was no option in my mind.

We did not use a baby monitor as we don't have a very big house and I could hear if he was crying. if we had used the monitor I would have been able to hear all the stuff that was keeping me awake with them next to the bed.

I would also add that they both slept better once they were in their own room - I think it was because we weren't disturbing them.

Do what you feel comfortable with - There isn't a one solution fits all with anything to do with parenting! (sadly!)

also have 5mo old DD and would also consider moving her into her own room now (to distance myself from her early morning singing) so you're only as selfish as me. Tho that probably shouldn't be too much of a comfort to you . Trouble is

a) she IS in her own room and we are squatting in it with her while our bedroom is still full of the cr*p from our house renovations

b) DP will not hear of it before the 6 month guideline. Mind you he is less disturbed by her than I am (probably can't hear her over his own snoring)

Scrub that - I would actually dearly like to move me into my own room now and leave them to serenade each other......

Seriously, up to you obviously but the 6 month guidline is there for a reason and although no harm will come to most babies if in a room on their own,....you know the rest. I'm not sure WHY 6 months is the cut off though. I mean, is the risk of CD highest in a newborn and then decreases to some sort of acceptable level at 6 months or does something developmental happen around 6 months that means there's a sudden dramatic drop in the risk? Someone on here must know.

I put my son in his own room when he was 1 week old. He was too big for his moses basket and our room was too small for his cot. My doctor told me that I shouldn't have done that but my health visitor said that it was fine as my house isn't huge and we use a monitor. He slept for 8 hours a night when we put him in his own room and 12 hours a night a couple of months later. It certainly worked for us!

Some bright spark suggested doing this and using the baby monitor in reverse - so dc can hear you grunting/snoring/shuffling - as good as being in the room with them.

that is close to genius

talktothebees after many nights of listening to DH and dd both snoring and with DD's reluctance to put DD (4 months) into her own room I threatened to have my own room and leave them both to it!

DD is now happily in her own room (at 5 months) and DD now wears nasal strips on his nose!

We don't even have a monitor as we live in a flat and keep the doors open. We have always woken up while DD is still in a happy chatty mood, she has never had to cry to wake us.

The reverse monitor thing is brilliant. Apparently part of the reason having the baby in your own room prevents against SIDS is that your noise wakes the baby up periodically in the night, preventing them from going into too deep a sleep IYSWIM?