5 month old won't sleep in cot.. Just a phase?!

[JulieHanlon12]

So my just turned 5 month old is now refusing to sleep in his next to me. Its taking over an hour to settle him for bed but when he does go to sleep he wakes upset and will only be settled by holding onto me. He wakes soon after and the cycle repeats. Through the night he now sleeps in our bed, and whilst he sleeps better its not good enough for me to want to continue it longer than I have to. My partner works shifts and needs to be alert for work and we don't have a spare room for him to sleep (babies room, that's it). I really want my bed back, I feel I am with him 24 hours of the day just now and am hoping this is just a phase-he was never in with us before now and could go to bed great himself!! Any advice greatly appreciated!!

I don't have the advice you want as I just gave in and he slept with me for quite a long time! Made it as safe as I could etc and I did get more sleep. Mine was waking to feed though. It's very likely this is just a phase (there are so many!) and he may change back into the old routine. I know he's five months but does sound like 4 month sleep regression! Re your partner's sleep, could you get a mattress for the baby's room to use when necessary? Air bed even.

@Iggi999

I don't have the advice you want as I just gave in and he slept with me for quite a long time! Made it as safe as I could etc and I did get more sleep. Mine was waking to feed though. It's very likely this is just a phase (there are so many!) and he may change back into the old routine. I know he's five months but does sound like 4 month sleep regression! Re your partner's sleep, could you get a mattress for the baby's room to use when necessary? Air bed even.

We actually have a double airbed but it physically doesn't fit in the space in his room or the living room but we have tried our best on occasion! My partners also 6ft 5 and I judt hate the 3 of us being in bed together when hes still so small. Praying its a phase!!

I'm at 6ft5!! Could get a single air bed for a tenner but he'd probably need two strapped together lengthways
Can you teach him in the next to me? If you keep a hand on his body would that help? I assume he will wake instantly if you let him fall asleep on you and then transfer him over?

reach not teach

Hey OP, just wondering if you ever solved this?
my 5 month old used to go to sleep in his next 2 me absolutely no problem and then out of nowhere refuses to go in it and will only sleep on the main bed.
I just don’t understand as he can still see me from his cot and for the most part will sleep in there when his dad does the nightshift (we have a single bed in baby’s room for the other parent) but never with me. He screams so much he physically makes himself sick until I put him on the big bed.
I wouldn’t mind so much but I’m scared it will become a habit. I’m a very light sleeper and tend to not move too much but his dad sleeps very deeply and moves around a lot, it would be terribly unsafe for him to cosleep with him but now I’m worried the more he does with me, the more he’ll want to with his dad.