Stopping Napping

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DD 23m won't sleep when I put her down, she just runs round her cot singing and laughing, I put her down after cuddles and stories so usually about 7.20pm, she's still awake now at 8.45pm. She'll be up at 6.20am, sometimes she naps for 1.5-2hrs but a few days recently she's refused the nap. Evenings without a nap means she'll be asleep any time between 6.30pm and 7.30pm and sleep through later, often doing a 13h stretch.

So when she doesn't nap she sleeps for 13 hours total, in one stretch at night.
When she naps for 90 minutes in the day her night time stretch can be as short at 9 hours, so 10.5 hours total.

I love nap time, I drink coffee, watch telly, or sit in the garden and pretend I've been flat out with housework, but is this the end of them? Seems young at not quite 2?

Your problem will be that if you don't teach her the fundamental that behaviour expectation that going to bed = going to sleep, then you are just pushing the issue further down the line rather than solving it.

You may well find that if you get very firm about bedtime behaviour and she leans boundaries, that she'll sleep much more, therefore showing she does need more sleep.

I love nap time too and I’ll be sad when it ends but, giving what you’ve said I would stop the nap and let her have the longer stretch on a night time.
Is she ok lasting all day without one?

@FATEdestiny
She has previously gone to sleep easily, quiet as soon as I put her down and she goes straight to sleep at nap time. Do you suggest I go up more regularly and say firmly to lie down? I usually check on her every 20 minutes or if her singing changes, but she's usually just excited to see me I give her a cuddle and put her back down again.

Can you do quiet time instead so you still get a break but remove the sleep expectation?

@Moonshine11
I don't want to lose my lunch time break for a little rest before the afternoon shift
She is more tired on a no-nap-day but not wired or angry, just red baggy eyes at 5pm, into PJs just before six then cuddles til I take her up at about 6.20pm, then asleep straight away

I'd gladly stop that nap to get better sleep at night and no 6am starts.

My first born often didn't have a nap from about 18 months but she wld sleep 13-14 hrs a night. By 2 she never napped maybe fell asleep in the car for 10/20 mins but not a proper put down nap.

My second child is 18 months she sleeps about 12hrs overnight and her nap is usually an hour. She still really needs that nap just now and is a gd routine.

@FudgeSundae
Could we do that in separate rooms?

[quote tbtf]@FudgeSundae
Could we do that in separate rooms?[/quote]
I mean, my DD is the same age as yours and still needs her nap but when she does drop it I am going to try telling her she needs to play quietly in her room for an hour or something. We have a video monitor and I think it’s good for her to have some alone time and learn to entertain herself. But I can’t say that it will definitely work!

[quote tbtf]@Moonshine11
I don't want to lose my lunch time break for a little rest before the afternoon shift
She is more tired on a no-nap-day but not wired or angry, just red baggy eyes at 5pm, into PJs just before six then cuddles til I take her up at about 6.20pm, then asleep straight away[/quote]
Totally get you, I enjoy the couple hours peace before the chaos resumes!
It’s a hard one, I would welcome the better nights sleep and a later start then you’d have time on a night to relax.
As others have said try and introduce some quiet time.