taking away the dummy at 12mo: how did your dc get on? And did you bascically do CC?

[cheritongirl]

my ds is one now and having been a great sleeper has become an insomniac in last couple of months. We think he just can't settle himself without his dummy so maybe now is the time to take it away and maybe do some CC. Terrified at the thought but more terrified at thought of feeling this tired for months and years to come!
Any advice welcome, ta.

(I have no advice, I waited until he was 3 and bribed him with money.) Try giving him more dummies in his cot so he isn't as likely to lose thm?

Lots of TLC for about a week - go in and settle him every time he wakes - which he will. So a week of hell - then it'll be gone forever. Whatever you do - chuck them all away so you're not tempted to give in. Then... strangely... unless he has learned to walk to the shops with his pocket money, he can't get himself another one!

I can never understand it when people say they 'can't' take a dummy from their child!

my dd hung hers on the xmas tree on xmas eve in exchange for santa coming. told her about it weeks before, said that santa needed them for the little babies. took her to see santa about 5 times and each time i would give him a nod and say 'dont forget santa to collect the dummies when you come'
we did have a couple of bad nights but just kept going in and shushing until she eventually fell asleep.

That's so sweet - I love that!

so how old was your dc glitter? As this is my first i am wondering when he will understand enough to be told a lovely story like that.. he is obviously too little now though! But if i don't manage to break the habit now i will remember it for the future! ta

she was 2. there are other things you can try

bury in the garden for the squirrels

leave it for the dummy fairy

buy him a toy but he has to pay for it with his dummy

if you really dont feel he is ready you could put it on a dummy holder and attach to his pj's, there are only ever on short ribbons and he is old enough to not get tangled up, it worked for us

a classic mumsnet suggestion is to tie a muslin of cloth to the dummy to make it easier to find. My DD does wake for hers but a quick replug is all it takes to sort her out. I think the older they get the deeper they sleep so the less of a problem this becomes. By all means take it away if you can handle the tears otherwise I'd wait until you can reason with him (that's what i intend to do)

Forty, maybe when people say they can't they actually mean they don't want to, after all the dummy gives my dd so much comfort I'd feel mean taking that away.

what prpmpted us to get rid of the dummy, apart from her age, is that once she had gone into a deep sleep it would often fall out of her mouth and she would sleep most of the night without it.

i agree that you have to do it when you feel its right for him, i wanted to do it when my dd was 1 but was made to feel bad when someone said' oh she's only a baby' so i hung on another year or so. that said although she has always been a good talker, her speech became a lot clearer afterwards ie pronouncing R's and L's properly

Last night was the 1st night without a dummy for DS. We rounded all of them up, all 18 of them and took them to my friend who has an 8mth old little boy and he gave them to the baby to have. I think he understood, he is 2 1/2, he gave them willingly if that is understanding

Anyway, all was great he never mentioned the dummies at all. Well until bed time... He only used to have them at bed time anyway and went straight off. To be honest he wasnt as bad as I expected, he did cry well he sobbed for a while just shouting please mummy my dummy. I just went in and laid him back down and told him the baby needs his dummies now, his answer to this was stripping naked and throwing everything out of his cot

After dressing him 3 times he went to sleep after an hour.

Bring on round 2

Jodie x

well done Jodie! wow your ds's response sounds very dramatic - almost the kind of thing i would do when very annoyed..! hope he has stayed dressed and been ok tonight.
We are just seeing tonight if ds will settle himself back to sleep when he wakes up moaning for his dummy (want to know how much he can settle himself) - so far this evening he has managed it when he woke, will be interesting to see if that lasts the night!
Glitter, if you are still there - did you give your dd her dummy outside of bed/naptimes? My ds isn't talking yet (being only 12mo!) but i have been thinking about the speech thing - he is only allowed the dummy in his cot so figure he wouldn't be talking then anyway?!

dd only had dummy at bedtime as she stopped having naps at 15 months. occassionally if she was ill she would have it during the day. having dummy wont stop his speech but will alter the sound of certain letters. think i would be inclined to rstrict during the day first, and only give for naps.

jodie1984 - well done! If he slept ok after an hour then I predict he will be fine by day 3!