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Time to drop nap, or continue persevering?

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stinkymalinki · 15/11/2007 21:34

DS is 2, and for a long time has followed the same pattern: Up 8am, nap 1-3pm (give or take half an hour), bed 7.30pm. On the very rare occasions he misses a nap, he goes to bed at 7. Once in bed, he usually sleeps through with no bother.

Since he was poorly with a cold then conjunctivitis a few weeks ago, he has faught us all the way WRT going down for a nap, and again at bed time. I initially thought fine, maybe he's outgrown his nap, so haven't really pushed the issue but it just makes him worse going to bed at night, howling as soon as he is put to bed (pre all this, he would just roll over and go straight off to sleep) so i have to talk quite sternly on the monitor and he constantly wakes up every 45 minutes (with full-on crying) till about midnight (and probably beyond, but i'm so tired, i don't notice). If i enforce a nap (no mean feat, i had to let him kick and scream in his pushchair for a good 30 mins yesterday before i could intervene, then he slept for a good 1.5 hours, so he clearly still needs to sleep), although he's still initially resistant to bed time, once he's there he sleeps through without disturbance all night.

Its beginning to get me down, as i don't like battling him, but it really seems that i have to carry on trying with an afternoon nap, as a lack of one has such an impact on his evening sleeping.

No nap today - couldn't run the risk of his screeching protests waking DH who's on nights - so as a consequence, DS went to bed at 7 and has been awake twice already.

[i should add, nothing has changed in his routine - this has all kicked off since he's been ill]

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glaskham · 16/11/2007 18:33

my son went through a stage like this, and when he didn't have a nap come 5/6 o'clock he'd become a little devil....i started just putting him to bed after lunch and i'd leave him there and he'd scream a bit, bang a bit and play a bit, but he always fell asleep.....i'd let him sleep as long as he normally would and within a week i had him back into routine....he's very nearly 3 now and if he doesn't get a nap is still a mr grumpy at tea time so i know he still needs his nap, and he still sleeps no problems from 7pm till 8am!!! he sleeps the same amount sometimes more than my 19mth old dd!!! but i aint complaining- i get peace and quiet to clean and he sleeps!!

good luck!!! and if you dont like what i did here's to bumping for you eh!!!

Anonymama · 16/11/2007 18:43

Totally agree with glaskham. My DS (23mths) had a couple of weeks in October where he had been ill, then refused to play ball at nap time (12.30-2 ish). By teatime he was hard work & by bedtime (7) exhausted and unsettled. He would usually stay in his cot till 6.45am, but now wanted up earlier too!!

He was tired, and I was exhausted (and fairly pregnant). A mate simply said one day: you'll have to get him back in the routine, or not have any time to rest once the new baby arrives. I returned home determined to get him back on track. (Some other mates/in-laws had said, oh he's probably old enough to drop it... - even though I knew from his behaviour that he wasn't coping without it).

The next day I went back once after 15mns of crying and just said "No, stay in your cot, time for your nap" (or something similar), and he kept on for another 30mns then fell asleep. It took about 10mns the next day. And since then - he's been great at going down, and sleeps for between 90-120mns in the afternoon, and for about 11.5hrs at night.

I try to keep him active when he is up - playing or playgroups, or out in the garden or out for a walk (although he has a bit of downtime with Cbeebies & a book for about 20-30mns twice a day).

I think illness often upsets routine, and at this age, your DS is probably becoming atuned to the idea that he has choices when in comes to selecting toys, t-shirts etc. - so why not in this area? But you are the boss (even if it hardly ever feels like it), so trust your instinct.

Good luck

stinkymalinki · 16/11/2007 20:38

Thank you for the replies, much appreciated. So, i need to be getting him back on track with his naps then, as i suspected would be the case. He actually had a nap today, so fingers crossed we have a better night.

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