Losing my mind!

[YukoandHiro]

I don't think I'm really asking for a solution, I just need to vent.

Dd2 is six months and her sleep is absolutely terrible. Currently Does about 3-4 hours at the beginning of the night then wakes hourly (two hourly on a good night). Problem is if we leave the cry a little or try ssshh pat while she's awake her cries wake my 3.5 yo DD who usually sleeps through but if she's disturbed can be up for two hours or more before she resettles.

I bf so the easiest thing is to just keep feeeding the 6mo back down (it doesn't take long). But man I'm exhausted...

I don't see any other solution as when the eldest wakes we all get even less sleep

Nobody else awake then?

Go to this website: www.thebigsleepco.co.uk and join their mailing list. It'll give you access to the free facebook group. It's a godsend. X

@YukoandHiro this was me with my 6 month okd and I sleep trained need I say gently I never left the room or had my hand off but but did not lift her out the cot, speak to her of feed her through the night again she now sleeps through like clockwork 8-7.30. It toook 3 nights that's it the first one was hell I won't sugar coat it but babies learn quick and she is so so much happier now she's getting decent quality sleep. Do you have a childcare bubble ? If so maybe your eldest could have a couple of sleepovers while you crack it ? If you don't I'm sorry to suggest x

P.s I'm not awake with the baby

Did you use white noise @mrssunshinexxx ? It used to help us but now seems to make things worse

Don’t fall into trap of changing a million things at once. We had this until DD2 was about 11 months and I stopped bf. she’d then wake 2-3 times a night until she grew out of it when she was about 2. Sleep in the day where you can, even if the older one is in front of the tv.

I just wanted to say i feel your pain. DS is 12 months and i have had maybe 2 full nights sleep
In the past year. We have recently sleep trained him going to bed awake rather than being fed to sleep. This did take a few goes as I would relent from sheer exhaustion. Like you I struggle with the night wakes as i do not want him waking the older ones. I need to do something as its so hard juggling family and work on a few hours broken sleep.

You're right about the temptation to a million changes @DelilahTheParrot - she has only started solids a week or so ago so that might be part of it. But she's not actually consuming very much yet and we're still only on veggies and fruits.

My first was like this too but I didn't train as she had awful eczema and allergies and I just felt she was in pain and needed me. My second is a healthy robust little thing (not so little, she's actually massive) - so I feel she's just got into this waking habit and doesn't need feeding or anything

Sorry to hear you're in the same position @Clementine8 - sending solidarity ✊🏻

@YukoandHiro yes white noise on fairly loud all night long

@YukoandHiro I fed her nighttime feed with light on or curtains open in bedroom THEN close the curtains / turn light off and turn white noise on lay her down and walk out now

I feel for you it’s exhausting. I think 6 months is one of the worst times for sleep. I would go back to basics like when you had a new born and go to sleep on an evening as soon as they baby goes to sleep. Do the minimum needed to survive and use every opportunity for yourself to sleep.