Please help 20months

[Bluemoon94]

Truely need some advice,

My 20 month old gone from sleeping 8/7am

Till now sleeping 8pm till midnight waking up screaming and then refusing to go back down so I either sit up all night with her asleep on me in her room on a chair or we go lay on the sofa downstairs... she awake now it22:10 and she refusing to go back down,
I can’t do this much longer

Routine before bad nights:

Awake 7am
Bottle
Play
Breakfast
Out the house park/walking etc
11:30/12upstairs nap in her cot till 1
Up
Play
Lunch
2pm to the park
4pm home
6/730 dinner bath and bed
Asleep by 8

Only thing that really changed since she not been letting me put her down we been getting up at 6am
I use white noise to help her sleep (hoover) nap time she has it on whole time
Bedtime she has it on to go to sleep then off after 35mins.
What am I doing wrong I don’t care about the waking I just wanna be able to put her back down after while

Thanks x

That me asleep on the sofa

Sorry you're having a tough time. Sleep is so important!

How long has it been going on? If it's not long then hopefully just a phase.

I find with my 20 month old that we can have a period of a couple of weeks of absolutely crap sleep and then it goes back to normal. I'm no longer, generally, begging for sleep.

It might not hurt to try and stop the white noise? If it's switching off after 35 mins at night then she could miss it when she wakes up later on and be unable to go back to sleep without it?

No advice but just here to say it must be a July 2019 thing. My 20 m is the same. Hasn’t ever really slept and has had the same routine as my DS.

My DD used to settle straight away until the fun began around 3/4. In the last few weeks she won’t settle without screaming and is shouting to get up. I’ve given in since the start really and she had pretty much commandeered DH’s space in our bed. Anything for sleep.

I’m wondering if the screaming is regression? Hopefully only a temporary thing?

@beggingforsleep

Sorry you're having a tough time. Sleep is so important!

How long has it been going on? If it's not long then hopefully just a phase.

I find with my 20 month old that we can have a period of a couple of weeks of absolutely crap sleep and then it goes back to normal. I'm no longer, generally, begging for sleep.

It might not hurt to try and stop the white noise? If it's switching off after 35 mins at night then she could miss it when she wakes up later on and be unable to go back to sleep without it?

Thank you so much for the reply, It been going on few weeks before use be 3/4am now it before Midnight I'm downstairs trying to sleep on the sofa with her as it only way I'm gonna get any little sleep, Only reason for white noise because she such light sleeper to sound as it is I can't sneeze without her waking so 35mins basically time for me go downstairs make a tea pee and then go to bed myself without waking her

@Whirlwind14

No advice but just here to say it must be a July 2019 thing. My 20 m is the same. Hasn’t ever really slept and has had the same routine as my DS.

My DD used to settle straight away until the fun began around 3/4. In the last few weeks she won’t settle without screaming and is shouting to get up. I’ve given in since the start really and she had pretty much commandeered DH’s space in our bed. Anything for sleep.

I’m wondering if the screaming is regression? Hopefully only a temporary thing?

Honestly so glad I'm not alone I'm really starting to crack with it all now I'm tired I'm annoyed I'm scared I'm creating more habits that gonna be hard to break Thank you so much for reply

I second what @Whirlwind14 says. Anything for sleep. We can go for a week or so with DS in bed with me and my DH in the spare room.

Is she communicative? I've also had the odd night when DS won't stop screaming in the night and I ask him what he wants and let him point me down the stairs to the kitchen for water or whatever. It's probably not water he wants, just likes controlling me, but he settles better after he's been in charge for a while. While we're on our tour I just keep telling him that everyone else is asleep and I don't switch on any lights. He seems to get it.

Honestly, she will let me put her down on bean bag to sleep while I lay on the sofa but not her own bed
Just don't understand

@Bluemoon94

Oh wow, I have been searching mums better for a post just like yours as we are in the EXACT same position! You may have read my post on the sleep forum of mums net recently too!?

Our daughter was also a fantastic sleeper for ages and slept a full night between 7-7 and then all of a sudden when she turned 2years old, she just wouldn't go to sleep without me being there next to her . We have been thinking it is separation anxiety .

I sit with her whilst she goes to sleep at 7pm. Depending on the sort of day we have had , this can take 20mins , it can take 1 hour !!!! I started off sitting next to her cot , and then over time I now sit next to the door . I then make my escape. But around midnight-2am she wakes screaming snd shouting "oh no". I tried repeating sitting next to her again but it can take her hours to actually go back to sleep , it's like she's in such a light sleep. She keeps getting up to check I'm still there! So if I make my escape after a while, she immediately knows and screams such a high pitched scream again. It's impossible to stay sitting in her room throughout the early hours or the night

We are SO tired too, so we've resorted to taking in a camp bed into her room when she wakes after midnight . I worry so much that she is getting used to this and will rely on it, but there's nothing else we can do as we just need to sleep!! We tried a couple of times to bring her into our bed but it was not great as she just wiggled and kicked us so none of us slept !!

That gonna be my next plan to sleep on her bedroom floor so atleast she stays in her cot to sleep and not on me on the sofa or as we can see in picture she went on bean bag for few hours 😂

Can't wait for her be a teenager I won't be letting her sleep in 😂

@24601mary this sounds like our 20m DD. I think the camp bed is out next move, in a hope we can break her gently back into staying in her cot. It’s exhausting. She’s in our bed every night, DH is pretty much permanently in the other room. As she’s getting taller she’s kicking me all through the night and also waking at 4ish demanding milk.

We get the ‘no’ too. If it’s a wake up after midnight there’s no settling her back in her room. What I wouldn’t give for a full nights sleep!!

@Bluemoon94 @Whirlwind14 just wanted to check into ask how are things going for you both?
We are over a month in now with serious sleep deprivation !! Eeek xx