What can I actually do?

[twinkletwinklestarz]

I am beside myself! I am sat here with tears running down my face.....what can I actually do!?
DC2 is an horrendous sleeper! 5 months old and longest ever slept is three hours, things have steadily got worse. Got worse round 4 month regression then improved a bit for a few nights and now we're back to waking every 35-45 mins. Last night I got three lots of 20 mins sleep the whole night. I can't nap in the day as have a three year old.
I am broken, after five months of this I have little left to give. What can I do?
I have tried everything, longer naps, shorter naps, earlier and later naps. Different bedtimes, warm baths, massage, white noise, little ones programme, huckleberry programme! Nothing works.
He seems very healthy and happy in the day, feeds a lot and is up in the 90% for weight. EBF.
Will not take a dummy, we've tried loads of different ones. Will not take the bottle.
My husband is away on work and I am dealing with the forth wake up already. I'm on my knees!
Please someone tell me is this just him? Is he just a bad sleeper? I don't know how much more I can actually take before something awful happens like I fall asleep on him feeding my biggest fear!
I cannot co sleep, I am too exhausted for that too!
Please someone offer me some hope

💐 this will pass, I promise.

When you say you are too tired to cosleep, what do you mean? It was the only thing that worked for my LO when he was that age. I had to cuddle him close and ssshhh loudly in his ear to stop him crying and help him settle.

Ohh mumma, I feel you I really do.

Just breathe, take some deep slow breaths. You are incredible and you are doing an amazing job. Your little one is not a "bad" sleeper, it's so hard trying to get into a routine when you have a new baby and a little one already as you said above you can't sleep when baby sleeps during the day.

My first born had a tounge tie, he would feed every half hour and then fall sleep while feeding because he was exhausted from suckling which really limited the sleep I got during the night time it was virtually non existent like yours. We did end up having him seen and his tounge tie was cut but he still stayed in the routine of waking every half hour to an hour. I just took each night as is came. I made the room as peaceful and calm as possible. I would go to sleep once he did of an evening I also got a My Hummy sleep aid and it honestly worked wonders the heartbeat and white noise really soothed him back to sleep. I found a bedtime bath together helped too.

I would also suggest calling your health visitor, they should be able to advise you better.

I really hope you're able to find a routine for both you and little one which enables you both to get some good hours sleep.

Just remember you're amazing!

Xxx

@twinkletwinklestarz

I am beside myself! I am sat here with tears running down my face.....what can I actually do!? DC2 is an horrendous sleeper! 5 months old and longest ever slept is three hours, things have steadily got worse. Got worse round 4 month regression then improved a bit for a few nights and now we're back to waking every 35-45 mins. Last night I got three lots of 20 mins sleep the whole night. I can't nap in the day as have a three year old. I am broken, after five months of this I have little left to give. What can I do? I have tried everything, longer naps, shorter naps, earlier and later naps. Different bedtimes, warm baths, massage, white noise, little ones programme, huckleberry programme! Nothing works. He seems very healthy and happy in the day, feeds a lot and is up in the 90% for weight. EBF. Will not take a dummy, we've tried loads of different ones. Will not take the bottle. My husband is away on work and I am dealing with the forth wake up already. I'm on my knees! Please someone tell me is this just him? Is he just a bad sleeper? I don't know how much more I can actually take before something awful happens like I fall asleep on him feeding my biggest fear! I cannot co sleep, I am too exhausted for that too! Please someone offer me some hope

My goodness, I so feel for you, I hpe things are better now and sorry not to have seen your message when you posted it. My friends swear by a 'Zed', it vibrates the mattress and has really helped. Its made by the same people as the Rockit rocker thing. Worth a shot if you are still battling with naps etc.

It’s horrific. I sleep trained at 6 months. Slept 12 hours a night ever since, having previously been up multiple times a night.

@twinkletwinklestarz you poor, poor thing. No wonder you’re struggling, you’re running on empty. I’ve been there and wouldn’t wish sleep deprivation on my worst enemy! I found the Lucy Wolfe book to be really helpful and her Instagram page has lots of free videos that explain many of the concepts. Keep reaching out for support. I got to the point where I was so tired I didn’t feel safe to drive! Be extra, extra kind to yourself