baby overeating frustration

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So my baby was a preemie and docs say spitting up is normal and so are cluster feedings BUT my child will cry and cry and cry until she gets a bottle and than she'll eat to the point of spitting up SO MUCH. Of course then shes hungry again. Its a vicious cycle over and over at night. During the day she eats like I would think a "normal" 1 mnth old would but at around 7 or 8 she becomes this ravenous pukey beast until around 1am. Ive tried doing other things like dancing or a pacifier but they dont do much to appease and eventually i just feed her to get her to finally fall asleep. I find myself getting so frustrated because i dont feel like its healthy for her, im sick of getting spit up on(my hair too!), changing her clothes, this morning at 6am I had to change the sheet on her bed! I get so upset im all but yelling at her to go to sleep and feeling ashamed of wanting to do something awful so ive had to walk away several times. So not only is this post about what to do but its also about how ashamed i am that i get this upset. I love my baby to death, ive never hurt her but even thinking about it scares the shit out of me! anyone with any advice or relatability would be so great

So she is one month old and bottle/formula fed? Why do you think she is overeating? Have you checked how much she is drinking with the Drs?

Small babies need to feed throughout the evening and overnight, that is normal. Spitting up is also normal - have you tried holding her upright after a feed (for 30 mins or as long as you can do) before laying her down to sleep?

It sounds like she is cluster feeding in the evenings.

My daughter vomited all the time, projectile mostly and usually an entire feed. She had reflux problems. What I used to do was layer crib sheets. So I’d put a waterproof layer with a sheet, and then another water proof layer and a sheet. This way when she inevitably vomited all I had to do was pull the top one off! We got used to the vomit eventually, usually she’d do it just as I was about to leave the house all down my back and in my hair!

My son was just like this at the same age. After doing some reading I believe that he was screaming for more milk due to reflux as the milk soothed his throat. This then lead to more spitting up from having so much milk.

He was prescribed infant gaviscon at around 11 weeks I think and this made a huge improvement and he wasn’t constantly screaming for another bottle.

I’d been fobbed off by HV and GP prior to this too.

Hey! My now 6 week old was the same around that time. Like the poster above me I suspected reflux so the doctor prescribed infant gaviscon. Might be coincidence but in 2 weeks he’s like a different baby. He still spits up a bit after feeding which is normal but he doesn’t seem uncomfortable from it now and he’s much happier in general. Speak to your doctor about it.
Other than that cluster feeding is normal as I’ve learnt. You mentioned bottle feeding so could your partner do more in the evening to help feed her?
Don’t be a ashamed about feeling angry towards her, you’re tired and stressed and you had the sense to walk away - you’re doing a great job.
P.s. tie your hair up before every feed, I’ve learnt that the hard way too!

Thanks so much for all the information and words of encouragement! I will def talk to the doc about gaviscon! I knew Id get some smart people here to help me out

Unfortunately her dad and I are no longer together. He stays here once in a while but doesnt really take initiative unless I ask him to which i def do when Im feeling really out of it. Hes only here during the night.

How old is she and how often is she feeding??