How to fix this?

[GlumyGloomer]

Be gentle. I absolutely suck at getting kids to sleep, and if anything I have ballsed up dd2 even worse than dd1.
Dd2 is 19 months. She sleeps on a cot matress on the floor, next to my single matress on the floor. She wakes between 1-3 times a night and feeds to sleep. Sometimes she won't settle and sleeps on my matress, but she will usually take herself off to to her matress in the night.
On a typical day she will wake 8-9am, nap sometime between 3-5pm, and go to bed from 10-12pm. Some days she skips the nap and goes to bed at 8 with her sister. She's been a cosleeper from birth, I gave up on the cot a while ago. The floor sleeping worked fine until Christmas when she started really fighting naps and bedtime.
I eventually sorted her sister when she was 2, in conjunction with weaning off and dropping the nap. That used a cot though (and 2 nights of screaming). Dd2 is a very adept climber so I don't think a cot will hold her. She enjoys getting tucked in with cuddly toys, but it's a game, she won't stay there. Waking her up before she's ready is really hard, she will scream to be held, then go back to sleep when she is. Is there anything I can do before she's 2?
And no one else will help with bedtime, it's just me with both kids.
TIA

Could you start by waking her earlier - day 7.30am and bring bedtime forward to 7.30pm.

I would stop with the soft toys and tucking in as like you mention - she might think this is a game.

My DD is 2.5 and since very young have always down bath books and then bed. If she's fussy I'll read a bit longer but often or not she's yawning by 7.30am. However we dropped the nap at about 22 months. I find she's more ready for bed also if we have been out during the day - for walks etc...
Fresh air seems to be the best thing 😊
Good luck

Yawning by 7.30 #

Thanks for the reply.
Today we had wake at 7am, nap 3-5, bedtime 11pm. Her wake windows are colossal. Yes, I should get her outside more, hopefully getting back to the school run will help with that. Bedtime is a mess due to the elder one. She doesn't want the toddler friendly books, but she also doesn't go to sleep as quickly if she can hear me reading to dd2 afterwards, as she hates to be left out. I'd rather the younger one went to bed first, but that only happens on nap skip days and she does get over tired then. I don't think she's really ready to drop the nap yet.

Could you shorten the nap? For 2 hours until 5pm inevitably means she won’t sleep til 11! Even if she doesn’t like being woken, I would probably cut that nap quite drastically for a few days and see whether she goes down earlier and if she sleeps through etc with that.

Updating incase it's of use to anyone.
After weeks of waking 3-4 times and only sleeping in my bed I decided it was time to sleep train. So yesterday we had 8am wake, outside all morning (thank you weather), nap 1-2.30pm, and at 9pm comenced getting her to sleep without feeding. It was horrible, but after an hour of my lying her down on her bed and trying the shush/comfort her while she screamed she finally gave me a hug and then got onto the bed herself and tried to sleep. It took 15 minutes for her to actually get to sleep, and she dropped off hugging my arm. I felt really dreadful that even though I was right there I basically let her cry herself to sleep
She woke at 12 and I let her have milk, then she woke again at 2, but she settled back down herself without even crying. I'm up now because the older one had a bad dream, little one is still sleeping. Hopefully the worst is over now, and tonight will be better.