10month old ridiculous sleep

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I would be grateful for any advice or views on my 10month olds night time sleep.
She's always been a pretty bad sleeper but it's just become ridiculous over the last few weeks to the point this morning where I'm pushing her round the living room at 3am because I can't settle her in her cot.
Normally she's in her bed ar around 1830 , has her bottle and then in put down awake with dummy and falls asleep no problem. Then it's just Russian roulette. Either she'll wake 2 times or 30 times and the last week has been waking for the day at 0430 , usually after messing about for a few hours first . She usually has one bottle in the night but refuses to drink anything after about 4am. She won't co-sleep ( thinks it's a game) and patting and dummy doesn't work.
I think we have got to the point of doing some CIO which DH will do cause I can't bear it .. my question is around her one night bottle - would you wean her off this as well? She only has 2 bottles a day ( mid morning snd bedtime) as she just won't drink anymore so I'm worried she's actually hungry and needs it .
Any advise on how to approach this would be very very welcome . Me and DH take equal turns doing the nights so we are both on our knees!

to add, either me or DH has been sleeping in the same room as DD ( we have a bed in her room) but I think this isn't helping because when she wakes up she can see us and cries to come out. But I also worry it will be a shock for her if we suddenly are not there ..
I do have an older DD and she was also a bad sleeper but nothing like this. We did some gentle cry it out with her when she was 15 months but I can't wait that long this time . It's not good for anyone for the younger DD to be sleeping so badly .

If you can afford it hire a sleep consultant. It’s the best money that I have ever spent. My son is 9 months old and he sleep still perfect but compared to 8 weeks ago it’s amazing. It did involve some crying but it was not as bad as I thought it would be. X

Sorry should say his sleep isn’t perfect x

How does she get back to sleep if she wakes in the night?

If we pat her or give her dummy back she settles quickly , until it gets to 3am and onwards then it's hit or miss if she goes back !

@LC66 it's definitely something we will consider , it might be easier if we have a structure on how to approach it!

I would try and reduce your input first before doing controlled crying. Put lots of dummies in the cot, put the dummy in her hand not in her mouth so she gets used to putting it back in. Try placing your hand on her back, rather than tapping, then try just sitting near her etc.

I would probably try and remove that night bottle and perhaps give her some porridge before bed instead. Remember 8-10month is a common sleep regression, so she might be just coming out of that or learning new skills like crawling/walking or teething that are waking her up.

Same boat OP, except he is nearly 2.
Once bed time is done I find my anxiety level go through the roof because I don't know whether it will be 1hr or 8hrs until he wakes up. He's been sleep trained once already, not sure how we have ended back here again. No real advice, just wanted to say you're not alone. (Although i know this too and still had a little feel sorry for myself cry at 3am this morning).

Thanks @fallingsnowflakes , I did hope her having a dummy would help with her independent sleep but she hasn't quite figured out how to put or find her own dummies yet! Good idea to stick more in her cot , I'll see if that helps !
I know there is a regression at that stage how we she seems to be nothing but regressions ha! She has got 8 teeth in the last 3 months which hasn't helped either .

@SEE123 that's so tough . My elder DD ( now 3) was awful for a long time . I had 2 years of 4/5 am wake ups and disrupted sleep . I had hoped by some miracle my next DD would be better but obviously I'm doing something wrong somewhere !!
Sympathy and strong coffee all round !

@5ambreakfastclub in honesty it's putting me off having another.

I only entertained the idea when she finally slept through . Still woke up at 5am till she was nearly 3 and even now she can be awake anytime between 5 and 0630. Urgh. I honestly couldn't believe it when the second one was worse , somehow I thought I deserved a better sleeper 🙈

It's worth a try! My now 11 month old was the same and after trying literally everything I could think of I decided to drop his dream feed (he was still having a bottle at 10/11) and he has slept through ever since! He now has 120ml morning and afternoon and then 150ml at 6.30pm for 7pm bedtime. I can't believe the difference this has made and we are all.much happier for it.

I had the same and it's a big part of why I only had one child.

The no cry sleep solution book helped a little.

I thought I'd give a quick update . DD is now in her room on her own and we have done some very gentle crying it out. Already a massive difference. She slept 1830-0645 last night with one wake up at 5am for milk. The best she's ever ever slept. DH went in to make sure she was ok at 3 cause he couldn't believe it ! The main difference is her being on her own in her room. We must have been disturbing her much more than we realised!