Can't wake up with baby

[UnsureOfNC]

I don't know if anybody has any advice but i'm really struggling. I've found it hard from the beginning to wake up with the baby but for the past week i have not even heard her cry and slept through most of the wake up and feed, even if i feed her myself i'm falling asleep holding the bottle!
My partner is brilliant and will just get on with it and then work all day aswell but i can't help but feel a bit guilty about it all. During the day she will only sleep on me which i'm not too bothered about but she's fussy for most of the morning and i only managed to get her to nap at 2pm yesterday.
I would just sleep when she sleeps but i also have a one year old! She goes to childcare once a week and my parents house every other weekend (routine before baby so we kept it the same) and i can't help but feel like an absolute shit mum. Who sleeps through their baby crying? I was never ever like this with the first. Any advice or anything is welcome

Ask your partner to leave you to see to her when she wakes, you've got into the habit of consciously knowing he will tend to the baby when crying so your mind allows you to sleep through it. Once you get into the routine of being up for the day it will become normal for you.

What age is your baby? I'm guessing newborn as you also have a one year old. I would suggest talking to your GP and ask to have your bloods taken, it doesnt seem normal that you would sleep through a newborn crying in the same room as you, or that you wouldnt be woken by your partner getting up to feed. It's nice to hear you have such a supportive partner though!

I second bloods checked at gp. Do you find time to look after yourself, way well, etc?

I'm struggling to rouse when my 8mo cries. He had woken every 2 hrs or worse since birth. I used to jump out of bed at the smallest whimper when he was younger, and now it's like an alarm clock that I can hear but it's just not making me react. I feel so bad.

Sorry for late reply i lost the thread!

@Seekingadviceplz she's 8 weeks today. I will speak to gp about bloods. Honestly i never thought it was possible but the other night she was in bed with us and my partner told me i'd slept through her crying, and scratching me! I just feel permanantly exhausted all bloody day!
I am very lucky with my partner, he's a brilliant dad and not once moaned about doing all the nights, i just need to do them myself now!

@BobbitWormNightmares

I second bloods checked at gp. Do you find time to look after yourself, way well, etc?

I'm struggling to rouse when my 8mo cries. He had woken every 2 hrs or worse since birth. I used to jump out of bed at the smallest whimper when he was younger, and now it's like an alarm clock that I can hear but it's just not making me react. I feel so bad.

Well... i'm with babies all day, 1 yr old naps and baby is usually awake (typical isn't it), by the time my partner gets home he'll cook tea and i'll just go to bed after that (maybe shower) it'll be easier once baby is in a routine i think! Will definitely go to the GP

@BobbitWormNightmares @UnsureOfNC I know this is an old thread, but I am currently in a similar situation now with DH getting up and tending to the baby at night and I just feel so exhausted even when I don’t get up at night! Did this get better for you both? OP was it something to do with your bloods? X