Getting 4 year old to stay in bed all night tips/advice

[shuz1980]

My four year old will fall to sleep in his own bed but gets up and comes in my bed every night. Some nights i get up when he comes in my room and put him straight back to bed but this is every 1-2 hours and is tiring and some night i give up and just let him in. The past week ive been really consistent and putting him back in his bed thinking he will get fed up but he hasn't and continues to wake up and try get in my bed. Ive spoke to him and said your abig boy you need to sleep in your bed and he says ok but never does. His room is warm, cosy and comfortable. Any tips/advice would be very appreciated from a very tired mummy.

I used to have this problem, as well as even getting my son to sleep in his bed.

Are you a single mum? Has your son said why he likes to come in to you?

Following for tips because mine is the same!

Both mine end up in my bed every night 3 and 5. I love it and hate it all at the same time but I'm terrified I'll miss it one day so I just let them in. It's cute waking up to their little faces

My son used to want to come in with me for a few years after his dad and I split. I think it was comforting to him to be next to me. When he got to almost 5 I decided to try to get him on his own room. I redecorated his room and made a big deal out of it being a big boys room. He doesn't like darkness so I bought a new night light for him which he still uses and put a teddy blanket on his bed for extra comfort. He was happy to sleep in his bed from that night on.

Definitely don't stress about it. I let my son do it for 3 years. I wanted it and so did he. We have an incredibly close bond, and I've read articles saying it benefits children. I felt it necessary to encourage him to go into his own bed when he was starting school. It was a milestone in my mind where I felt independence should be encourage.

Mine's already at school and we did all of the big boy bed stuff last summer before he started. He loves it all and goes to bed with good intentions, but always creeps up in the night. Like @snackarella I have mixed feelings, sometimes it's lovely and other times I just want my bed back.