Bedtime

[JBOH2020]

Can anyone offer any advice on how I can pull my sons bedtime to earlier. He's 12 weeks old and currently doesn't go to sleep for the night until anywhere between 11pm and 1am. Once he's asleep he will usually go about 8 hours, have a feed then back down for 2/3 hours. Meaning some days it's gone lunch time before he's even up for the day. I try waking him up earlier in the morning but he won't stay awake he'll go back to sleep and do things off his own accord.
In the day he power naps, tends to have 30 mins every couple of hours, with usually a 2 hour nap at some point as well but lately this 2 hour nap hasn't been until 7pm ish.
I know he's still young and routine is going to change and so on. But I also have a 7 year old daughter and I'm absolutely worn out by time little one goes to bed that getting up in the mornings is a task and half, and I'm also not getting literally any time to myself.
Sorry for the ramble but any advice is welcome thanks

That must be truly exhausting. Have you tried getting him up just 15 minutes earlier? It's going to take a while to do it but you should be able to move his waking up time.

The other thing I'd do, if you're not already is get him up and dressed after he's been awake for 8 hours.

Take him into the garden for a look around, it should be warming up tomorrow, and let him see that it's daytime.

Then keep him downstairs with you so the he's in a bright noisy environment. He may well be cranky but hopefully the daylight will encourage nighttime sleep

Agree with the previous poster, try moving the start of the day ten/fifteen minutes earlier each day gradually. Or yes, get them up for the day after the 8 hour stretch, come downstairs, play etc. And then back up for their nap.

Thank you both, going to give this a try. He comes downstairs once he first wakes up in the morning as my daughters up then and he'll nap in his bouncer.
I'm hoping once schools are back open then we get a much better routine but will start now. We'll all benefit from decent bedtimes. X