Would love to know how people get their babies to consistently sleep through. There is ALWAYS something!!!

[Kate3150]

Teeth...... regression.....illness.... overtired because of the other 3....

We maybe get the odd night of good sleep but I find there is always something. I’m jealous of those will 7-7 babies 😞 , lost count of the amount of times I was up last night, 3 teeth coming through 😩 xx

My DS is like this; I know he can do it but things keep getting in his way. My DD was much more consistent and I do everything the same as I did with her so I think it’s just the individual baby.

I sent mine to school... in his second term he suddenly started sleeping through.

Many people don't.

I am telling you many people simply exaggerate their sleep success.

A small number of babies sleep through.

@PracticingPerson- I think you’re right.
When I read about parents who have had 3/4 children and they’ve all “slept through” from a few months old, I’m flabbergasted!!
Can’t help think what I’ve done wrong, but I’ve done and continue to do my best- like we all do 💜

You've done nothing wrong

Ours were all different.

Just focus on your baby, not an imaginary model baby.

Not saying the tiredness isn't grim btw, but absolutely pointless talking about it with those who either don't understand or don't share.

A bit like discussing money troubles with the very wealthy !

My mum had three and we were all different.

It's not you, it's the baby. I've had two, one slept, one didn't. I did exactly the same stuff with both. One of them just wasn't very good at sleeping. She's 9 now and still isn't.

My dd slept 7-7 consistently from when she was 3 months old. Now she is 11 and would still sleep all day if possible. My ds was on off on off till.about 6/7 months, but still woke every now and again. He is 9 now.and is an early waker at 6.30 everyday. He just doesn't need as much sleep as my Dd.

I wouldn't get worried about comparing yourself to others. Your baby sounds like they're being a normal baby.
Mine learned to suck her thumb to self soothe fairly early on so I was lucky. Later I ended up sleep training (around 5 months) which improved a lot of the night waking. She sleeps through but not every night. Usually 1 wake.
I'd suggest you look at obvious environmental factors if you haven't done so already- light (I have block out blinds and stick on window covers) and that baby is not too hot or cold, especially early morning when temperatures tend to drop.

I don't think anyone's kid sleeps through every single night as a baby/young toddler. Teething, illness, developmental milestones etc will cause all kiddos to wake occasionally. Some parents might've trained their kid to know that there's no point in crying for help until morning, so the poor things just sit there and wait, but that's not the same thing.

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal has it. There are definitely babies who do it, but that's down to them not you. I also agree that the number who do are far fewer than is made out as people lie/have different definitions of STTN.
I have one good sleeper (although still wasn't a 7-7 from newborn), and one who has always struggled to get to sleep and stay asleep. The good sleeper would tell me she was tired and would ask to go to bed as soon as she was old enough to form the sentence, and she is generally out cold within minutes of her head touching the pillow. The poor sleeper still sees going to bed as a horrible thing, will delay as much as possible, and once finally there will take an hour or more to fall asleep. They were like this from the day they were born (4 and 6yo now) and I can't see it changing any time soon!

They don't get them to sleep through.

They allow them to cry.

There's a difference.

I also agree that the number who do are far fewer than is made out as people lie/have different definitions of STTN.

Indeed. I'm a member of a mum group and the first mum to claim her baby had slept through the night was at about three weeks old. He'd slept from midnight to 5 a.m., as it turned out. But she'll forever be telling everyone her baby slept through from three weeks old.

Absolutely agree with pp’s who say it’s all down to the baby.

Best example I have is a friend who swore by Gina Ford with her first - he was dream baby from a sleep perspective., complied with all the naps and slept through pretty early on. She gave a lot of credit to following the GF routine.

Cue second kid - she did exactly the same and eventually gave up because the baby just wasn’t a sleeper.

All 4 of mine were very different but the thing that worked with them all was moving them into their own room at 7 months. And not jumping the moment they cried. I'm not saying CIO but more taking my time to haul myself up and go to them. Also at bedtime, they did end up crying by themselves for 5-10 mins as I had 4 in 5 yrs and had other little children to deal with too after putting them down. But I always found that a week of a few mins crying when first put down led to them learning to chill in their cot. Not necessarily sleep but to start to play with their feet or whatever till I could get back to them. #3 was the hardest by far but even she became a consistent sleeper from about 7 months, just not quite as good as the others.

I’m 30 years old and so far in my life I have never slept through a night without waking up at least once (usually twice)... some people just don’t.

I think it's just luck, my baby did sleep through (followed GF method), I did leave him to self settle ... not sob uncontrollably but I didn't rush in the minute he just murmured or grumbled in his sleep ... it must be much harder in a busy household where there is bound to be more noise. Our house was exceptionally quiet - maybe that helped?

I never had another so I can't tell if it would have worked again

@MiniMaxi

Absolutely agree with pp’s who say it’s all down to the baby.

Best example I have is a friend who swore by Gina Ford with her first - he was dream baby from a sleep perspective., complied with all the naps and slept through pretty early on. She gave a lot of credit to following the GF routine.

Cue second kid - she did exactly the same and eventually gave up because the baby just wasn’t a sleeper.

Haha yes this, I have a friend who wittered on and on about her amazing routine and how it was successful and if I would only follow it my baby would also sleep.

Then had her second baby. Didn't hear much about the magic routine after that.

I feel your pain! We just thought we'd cracked it with our daughter and BAM, more night wakings lol.
Something always happens and our success always seems short lived.
I get envious of the mums whos babies sleep through and do wish people talked about when they don't , more often!
When people post on facebook, "baby slept through the night" with their 8 week old and my 6 month old is still to get there yet lol. Sigh!

Luck. I was very lucky. I honestly can't think of anything I did, I just got two good sleepers.

Mum had 3 of us - brother, great sleeper, sister - NOPE!, me, not sure she can remember because she had 3 kids under 7!

My older daughter didn't sleep 7 til 7 until she was nearly 2. She's 4 now and wakes up probably every other night for a drink, bad dream, needs a wee etc.

My younger daughter is 10 months and wakes up about the same, so I'm pretty hopeful that she will be sleeping through consistently soon (probably before her much older sister )

I do think it's a bit of a badge of honour to say that a baby "slept all night" from a young age, even though its mainly just luck.