Controlled crying confusion

[CharlieB93]

Hi I’m planning on trying to sleep train my almost 9 month old daughter. At 7 months she was sleeping for at least 10 hours at night and now for some reason this has gone out the window. She normally goes down at 7pm fine no issues but then she is waking up every 3 hours sat bolt upright crying and will only go back to sleep by being rocked (for hours ☹️) or being put in my bed. She is then waking up at 4.30am and won’t go back to sleep. I’m going back to work soon and I can’t cope /function on so little sleep.

I was so against sleep training but it looks like I have no other choice. I’m just a bit confused what actually happens?

So for instance I leave her to start with for 2 minutes before going in to reassure her - do I have to stay there until she stops crying then go out the room? Or do I go out the room with her crying? How long do I stay in there?

She always seems to hate lying down - should I pick her up to lay her back down or leave her sat up?

Do you use nightlights/white noise?
Thank you in advance for any help
From a very tired mum ☹️

My son is 2 - so we're in a different situation, but his sleeping has taken a nosedive too. Similar to a previous poster we have pushed his bedtime back - I was loathe to do this & lose any of my evening, but he now sits quietly (mostly!) while we eat dinner & I'm not battling getting him to sleep.

I think leave sleep training for now and try again after 12 months. I am a big convert to a bit of crying in order to get them sleeping through, but I think 9 months is slightly too young. Sometime between 12-18 months is perfect.

That’s the plan tonight - pushing bedtime a hour later and trying to ease her into it. I’ve set up a chair next to her cot with a book so hopefully that approach might be a bit more successful