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Desperate for help.

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Lottiebugz22 · 05/02/2021 21:35

My 2 year old won't go to bed anymore. It's driving a massive wedge between me and partner as we have no evening and just feel stressed every night from hours of trying to put her to bed. I'm also pregnant and I'm getting no sleep and feeling so ill with it now. She has a nap of 1 hour to 1. 5 hours a day. Bedtime routine always the same. Evening meal 5pm
Bath 6pm
Milk and wind down book time 7pm - 7.30/8pm.
When saying goodnight she just cries and screams for us to stay.

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DinosaurDiana · 05/02/2021 21:36

Is she in a single bed ?

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Lottiebugz22 · 05/02/2021 21:41

Yes she is.

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Twattergy · 05/02/2021 21:44

Is her room dark and door shut? She might feel scared? But not be able to explain properly?

DustyVenetian · 05/02/2021 21:48

What happens eventually ?
I'd say drop nap as first thought.

isurvived3under2 · 05/02/2021 21:51

Try dropping the nap as your first port of call. You'll have a few difficult evenings but she should drop easily.

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Lottiebugz22 · 05/02/2021 22:00

Thanks for replying.
She has a nightlight and has for months and I've started leaving the door slightly ajar. She usually goes to sleep with lullabies for about 10 mins but nothing is helping her sleep at all lately. Eventually she will drop off but then next door might wake her or she'll wake up and want one of us at which point I'm so tired I just get in bed with her.

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DustyVenetian · 05/02/2021 22:03

Really sounds like she doesn't need that nap

Matilda1981 · 05/02/2021 22:03

Defo drop the nap! My dd (3rd one) was 2 in September and since Christmas she’s slowly dropped a nap every day - used to not have a nap every 2nd or 3rd day then only napped once a week and now no naps - if she naps now bedtime is a battle and she won’t go to sleep for hours! She’s incredibly grumpy at times but at least she goes to bed early!!
My eldest dropped her nap bang on being 2 and my 2nd daughter dropped hers at around 2 years and 2 months

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Lottiebugz22 · 06/02/2021 08:36

I'll try the no nap suggestion. Thanks everyone. She slept in my bed from 10pm to 7.30am. I didn't get any sleep and she's such a fidget and I really don't want this to be a habit.

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Harrysmummy246 · 06/02/2021 13:37

Why can't you stay with her for a little while as she falls asleep? Then gradually reduce it when she's more settled?

I don't understand why people will leave a child distressed if something as simple as sitting with them would solve it. If she knows about the new baby, she's probably worried she's not going to have as much time with you but unable to express this

Maltay · 06/02/2021 13:41

My dd has just started doing this as well at 2y4m and changed her night time routine -its like she's suddenly afraid of being alone. After a difficult few nights we've settled into a new routine of one of us lying next to her bed til she goes to sleep. Takes about ten minutes, we don't talk to her anything she just seems to need to know we're in the room

QforCucumber · 06/02/2021 13:45

Why can't you stay with her for a little while as she falls asleep

This.

We still sit next to our 4 year old for him to fall asleep, he sleeps through and it takes 15 mins or so. If left hes up and down for ages. Path of least resistance.

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Lottiebugz22 · 06/02/2021 14:38

I haven't left my child distressed??????

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Lottiebugz22 · 06/02/2021 14:42

I've tried that. Soon as we get up to leave she wakes up. She doesn't sleep when she's in bed with me either she's awake all night.

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