5 day old won't sleep on back

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We have a 5 day old who sleeps really well on us, but since coming home from hospital won't sleep lying down in moses basket or crib. We've done the usual of tilting it at head end, hot water bottle, lying a top we've worn over the sheet etc etc.
He will only sleep on us but that means we don't sleep. We don't want to co-sleep with him in the bed with us.
Any tips or advice?

I was in your position 7weeks ago. It gradually got better. We were first successful with putting her down sleeping in the Moses basket, then built up to next to me crib. It was tough and I can't say we are completely there. I would sit there debating if I put her down she might wake up, but she might not. I find if room is cold she will wake up more easily. My dp and I found a shift pattern worked he normally has her to midnight and brings her up when she needs feed. I go up at 7-8pm depending on feed and get but of kip.

It's what they do at that age. Fresh out of that warm cosy womb, skin to skin and being close to you is all they want. Embrace it.

Look up The forth trimester, they don't even understand they've been born.

Also their tiny tummies and natural instincts mean they will wake frequently for feeds and to feel that closeness to stimulate bonding and milk. Wait till cluster feeding starts. Look it up now so it doesn't come as a shock.

We didn't co sleep but those early days we swaddled and put the baby down when she did sleep but if they wanted holding and cuddles we gladly obliged.

It was tough but remember they are totally new to this and not capable of learning or understanding anything other than what their bodies ask for.

You can not spoil a new born baby.

Good luck.

We have a next to me crib too but he just won't sleep in it. We know it wl get better but just don't want him to get into the habit so much if sleeping on us that he won't then transition to a crib.
Last night we did shifts and so I had him sleeping on me whilst my wife slept, then we swapped. Just want him to sleep I the crib so, not on it's good for him but so so we can get more than 90mins sleep a day

Have you tried swaddling him? As a newborn my son wouldn’t sleep in the snuzpod so we swaddled him and he slept in his pram (smaller space so I think he felt more secure). As he grew we were able to settle him in the crib and now at 8 weeks he sleeps in it like a dream.

Yes, we have a grobag swaddle but he doesn't like having his arms in.
We tried making the crib smaller/cosier with rolled up blankets under the fitted sheet thinking that the smaller space might help.
Not sure if we're expecting too much too soon, but our daughter was sleeping (even just occasionally) in her moses basket by this age

Shifts is the way forward. The baby won't get used to it at 5 days old.

You won't get the sleep now, that's new born life.

Swaddle, snuggle, sleep in shifts. You don't have to co sleep but you do have to accept that for now sleep will be lacking

My youngest was like this. Wouldn't even lie on her back in a pram!

I just slept with her on my chest for a few weeks. You get used to it after a few nights because you're so tired and there's no other option. I wouldn't bother fighting it since this is your second baby. First time round you've got the energy to try other options, 2nd time round I just did whatever my baby wanted for an easy life.

Hope you manage to sort it :).

Sorry, that wasn't very helpful long term!!

Meant to say it was a few weeks of sleeping on my chest, then she started sleeping on her side cuddled up next to me, then after a couple of months she was happy in the next to me crib. The stage didn't last too long x

Sleepyhead - they aren't recommended for overnight sleep but they are on balance a lot safer than one or you falling asleep with baby on your chest in bed or on the sofa. I used it at night for a few weeks while they adjust. It doesn't take long

Firstly congratulations, its a hard old job with a newborn! Unfortunately it's just one of those things and it will soon tease itself out. It's all about comfort. We discovered white noise around 2 weeks in and it was a god send, have you got Ewan the sheep or similar? If not you can get 8hrs non stop white noise on YouTube before spending the money to see if it works. I also second the sleepyhead. Not recommended for sleeping in over night, but we did for a long time and she was fine. Off you don't want to do overnight, definitely try it for nap time. Is baby breastfeeding or bottle feeding? If they're uncomfortable after feeds (crying, arching back, red faced, vomiting etc etc) it could be colic. We held DD upright for as long as it took to get a burp out after feeds (sometime over 30 minutes!), tilted the top end of her cot slightly and fed little and often with some gaviscon towards the end. It could also be wind so try a gentle massage at the lower abdomen and the bicycle legs and a nice warm bath to soothe. Would you also try a dummy to see if that would help comfort? Finally, you're both doing amazing and you certainly are not alone in this!

Try a swaddle where the arms are out to the side, also try a Moses basket or the bassinets of the pram.

My biggest mistake was thinking that my daughter would pop out of me and automatically sleep in a next to me crib as that wha I expect them to do. It's too big and spacious and scary for them