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Hand sucking - advice needed!

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siddons1 · 28/01/2021 05:07

My lovely 10 week old is generally contented and happy and is in a fairly good nighttime routine. (Daytime we just let her nap when she wants for no more than two hours at a time, and feed her every 3ish hours. Nap times and lengths vary; no pattern yet.) She goes to bed between 8-9am after a bath and bottle, and is good at settling herself to sleep in her cot. During the day she settles well for naps either in the cot, in the carrier out on a walk, or in her bouncer. She doesn’t like falling asleep on me, which I know is great! She’s fab.

However, she is also going through a bit of early teething and chews/sucks on her hands. I’ve tried the gummee mitts and she’s not massively keen; she seems to find them frustrating. During the day I can distract her with toys or hold teethers for her while her grasp and coordination still develop.

My question is about nighttime sleep. She’s starting to be able to sleep long stretches; usually 9 or 10 hours. However she wakes me up maybe every two hours sucking on her hands. Initially I got up and changed and fed her, but she’d actually still be asleep and only wake on the changing table (I always change her as she’s a very heavy wetter). Tonight, though, I waited when the sucking and chewing started, and after 15 mins of it with no real crying, just a couple of mild whinges, she put herself back to sleep. Well, she went quiet again - I don’t think she actually woke up throughout the entire thing. It’s happening every two hours so I’m not well rested, but I’m wondering if this is normal, if I’m doing the right thing by letting her do it and settle herself (she’s currently sleeping contentedly after her 4.30 chew session, and I did check on her to ensure she was asleep throughout). It’s loud enough that it even wakes my heavy sleeping husband, but I think it distresses us far more than her. Is there something I could/should be doing better? Sometimes she does sleep soundly without doing this but recently it’s very common.

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tenredthings · 28/01/2021 05:13

Sounds like you've got a great sleeper ! If she wakes you with her hand sucking you could try substituting her hand for a dummy, might be quieter and satisfy her sucking reflex.

MsChatterbox · 28/01/2021 05:29

Amazing! Do you have white noise on? That might block out the hand sucking for you. Yes definitely doing the right thing letting her get on with it. I've tried this many times with my 7 month old but it always turns to crying not sleeping. She still wakes hourly some nights. Sometimes even every 30 mins. So do not change a thing!!

arcof · 28/01/2021 05:42

if you have a 10 week old and your only issue is the sound of hand sucking is impacting your sleep your very lucky Smile
No doubt this phase will end soon and something else will come along, which could be better or worse than this, so just be grateful for now.

siddons1 · 28/01/2021 06:07

Thank you all for replying! I’m aware I’m incredibly lucky; she’s so good. I’m also not taking it for granted and I’m prepared for it to change at any moment haha!

My husband has actually given in and got up to change and feed her (I haven’t objected to this because he doesn’t get up with her at all usually and when I try to explain what’s happening I don’t think he fully gets it because he sleeps through normally and is quite like his opinion). I’ve got mild anxiety and tend to question everything I’m doing with her which is why I wanted to check in; thanks so much. We haven’t tried a dummy or white noise because she’s so good and I’m keen to avoid using anything that might lead to a sleep association, but I like the idea of white noise helping me sleep a bit better as I feel really guilty being tired during the day with her when I’ve had the chance of a good nights sleep but because I’m a light sleeper and fret over her a lot I don’t always get the sleep I’d like! Which again, is minimally disrupted compared to many others.

I’ll see how things continue and if there’s a pattern to the nights where she wants to do lots of sucking and those where she sleeps soundly (or maybe it’s me that’s the variant ...) 😂

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siddons1 · 28/01/2021 06:34

Also that sounds exhausting @MsChatterbox - I hope you get a reprieve soon! Is she teething too?

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siddons1 · 28/01/2021 06:58

Also that post should read “I’d like his opinion” - he’s very supportive but it’s always good to be able to chat things through when you’ve both experienced what’s happening rather than just me explaining it.

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DinosaurDiana · 28/01/2021 07:02

My youngest used to suck two fingers, she did it from birth and possibly before. It’s self soothing, it’s fine.
You could offer a dummy if you prefer, but you’ll be constantly getting up to give it when she loses it.

GingerAndTheBiscuits · 28/01/2021 07:06

I don’t think she’s teething, just self-soothing. It’s a very good thing. She may progress to thumb sucking once she can reliable find it at night!

MsChatterbox · 28/01/2021 07:58

The good thing about white noise is its a sleep association you don't have to do anything about!! Not like cuddling etc. So I actually see it as a positive sleep association. Something when you stay in a hotel etc it is a constant for them!

MsChatterbox · 28/01/2021 07:59

No no Teething here just uses my nipple to go to sleep!!! My son was a lot better!

BeTaupeSquid · 15/07/2025 06:42

Hi, what did you end up doing with this? I could have wrote this myself this morning. I'm waking up at 1am and 5am most days but she's not awake just madly sucking on her hands. I wake her and feed her currently and she does wake and take it.

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