Sleep hell, critique my evening please?

[Sleepisheaven]

DC is 7m old, BF but taking 3 meals a day too part BLW part mashed. We’re in the depths of despair and have no idea where we’re going wrong. Yesterday I spent 3 hours throughout the day trying to get him to sleep for naps/night sleep in total after he started showing signs of tiredness. Day before it was 5 hours, this in consuming my life and I need a way out.

18:45 super tired looking red eyes and drowsy actions so put pjs on.

19:00 fed lying down in dark room, kept pulling off boob and crying.

19:30 DP gave top up bottle of expressed 50ml incase he was hungry. Offered dinner again cottage pie, refused.

19:39 put back on boob upstairs and kept pulling off crying and going back on. Crying every time I put him down on the bed, crying after I picked him up and soothed him. I left the room for the toilet and he stopped crying the whole time. Started as soon as I entered again. Pinching, scratching, pulling my hair, scramming my face and boobs. Left him on his own for 5 minutes whilst I calmed down, hoping he would too but he just played with his dummy’s and whined whilst I was gone (we watched on the monitor to make sure he was ok). Went back in at 20:05 and he went straight on boob, pulled off boob a few minutes later then back on and finally fell asleep with dummy and my hand on his back.

20:15 asleep.

20:50 awake, fed lying down.

20:55 back to sleep.

11:00 woke for boob, then waking every 1-2 hours for boob again.

What are we doing wrong? How have we got here? Trying pick up put down but it doesn’t work, he’s so stubborn.

@ParadiseLaundry you were spot on, DP brought him to me at 9:23 he was doing his ‘milk whine’ and then he was asleep by 9:50.

It will only be 40 minutes I’m sure but at least he hasn’t become overtired.. yet.

Thanks to all other PPs aswell, I actually laughed with DP when PP said ‘randomly bringing cottage pie’ it’s true, if I was trying to get to sleep or tired and someone was offering me food I think I’d be fuming too. Sometimes you need an outside perspective.

I can’t under any circumstances let him have actual tear-crying, in my op when I wrote crying it is a tearless whiney cry.

I will have a think about dinner time, it seems linked to food because it’s become exasperated since weaning.

When trying the pick up put down method, he will absolutely not sleep at all in his cot. We co sleep so I have been doing it on the bed and feeding if he asks. Even with this gentle method 11 days in there is no improvement.

We’ll se how the rest of the day goes

@Sleepisheaven cut the naps down to two.
Get some fresh air in the afternoon if you can - with bub - helped my DD sleep well at that age.

Room nice and cosy beforehand - warm but not too warm.

Nurofen after dinner - takes a while to kick in remember.

Bath...books....boob in dark room. Down

Repeat boob.

Refuses boob....cuddles.

Still awake...take out of bedroom into another room...low light, read another book softly.

Try this.

Do you have a noise machine?

Are they in a sleeping bag nice and cosy?

It does sound like teething. But could also be development.

It's a phase - it will pass. Trust me. I've come through it. My DD is now 2.5years.

That great @. you got him back downThats great @Sleepisheaven glad you got him down nice and early. Good luck for the rest of the day.