5.5mo sleeping in our bed since an illness - how can we get her out!

[Pinknerverashjenny]

My 5.5mo dd started sleeping in our bed a brief 'rash' incident on advice from the doctor. She is perfectly fine now and the rash cleared up a month ago. However, she is stil in our bed.

To be honest, I wasn't overly concerned about it, but she is now failing to settle in her own cot between 7pm and 11pm, something which she had previously done without trouble.

I know I am giving her mixed messages regarding her sleep venue! I'm unsure about controlled crying as I feel she definitely has more staying power than we do, and I hate hearing her cry and always end up giving in. Pick up Put Down doesn't work as she doesn't cry when I am in the room, just when I start to leave the room.

I don't feel its good for any of us, as we're all disturbing each other now, amd its putting pressure on my relationship with dh.

Advice please!!

hello, my dd was a nightmare about sleeping in her own cot. we tried a couple of different techniques, 1 being controlled crying, and the other was to stay in her room with her untill she fell asleep. Controlled crying really did work. it is very tough for the first week but you should see real improvement. Try to follow the same routine each night, everything nice and calm put her down to sleep in her cot and leave the room, i used to let her cry for about 5 mins at a time and then go up and give her a cuddle for her to calm down then put her straight back down again. If you have a monitor switch it off, listening to her crying will just make you feel horrible. She will get the message soon enough, that however much she cries she must sleep in her cot. However difficult it gets do not back down and let her into your bed again, it will just confuse her.
i hope this helps. good luck and stick with it.

Thanks klover - funnily enough that's what I've just been doing! With the monitor off and everything! Maybe you were sending me sub-conscious messages!

thats good, just keep on going and she will be happy sleeping in her cot before you know it.