Cosleeping advice please

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9 week old DD. Has sometimes gone into her crib at night but has mainly slept with me.

But - she falls asleep feeding while on her side. Getting her onto her back is tricky as she tends to wake up. However even if I manage that I'm finding the weight of me next to her means she rolls over again towards me and this scares me. She is currently in a grosnug (I.e. swaddled) and in think that probably doesnt help.

So questions:
How can I stop the roll? Last night undecided it was safer just to keep her on her side but right against me so she couldnt go anywhere. She slept with her head on my boob.

1. Is she ok to be in a sleeping bag? Given she was next to me all night I was worried she was too hot.
2. Any idea how I could transition her to not cosleeping?! She sleeps in the sling during the day and it's all getting a bit intense.

I co slept but used a simple cellular blanket. We had a futon and there was no roll thankfully. By 3 months she could latch without me even waking which is very handy for nighttime feeding (I would switch her between sides each night)

Thanks. The roll is so frustrating but maybe it is because of the swaddle.

I either try to move further away from her so there is no gradient or dont swaddle her. Hm.

Can you sneak away from her, or does she wake? I had a cosleeper cot with DD, and I used to feed her to sleep in it (yes, really! I was desperate and she would settle when she was tiny) and then slooooooowly roll away. The cot mattress was nice and firm, so my weight didn’t change the shape enough for her to be in danger of rolling, nor could she feel it as I rolled away (which she did when I had had her on our mattress in the bed). But we didn’t swaddle, just had v.warm pjs.

I'm going to try that tonight - she is currently feeding on her side

My baby did this, and I read, but I can't quote where from, that if they are on their side right against you it's okay because they can't tip onto their stomach. My DD literally with her face resting on my boob for about 3 months. I had her in a sleeping bag, but her arms are free, not swaddled. She was about 3 to 4 months before she could sleep on her own for a bit. There were times when I found it very intense but it has slowly got a lot better.

Thank you, that gives me hope! X

I'm not sure it's safe to Co sleep with baby swaddled.

I Co sleep with baby in a sleep sack then no covers. Baby needs to be able to move. Even at a 4 weeks old my baby moves about and he grabs at me when he wants a feed.

When they're little I have them sleep with their head on my arm. They can't roll then and you stay aware of where they are. Your arm does get a bit stiff though.

I woulndt worry about baby being on their side though or snuggled into you. As long as there arnt covers or pillows that's fine.

Oh that's interesting- ok, I'll try without the swaddle. I have a cover but its wrapped round me, and my pillow is lodged between my head and my shoulder and completely out of her way

I coslept for my own sanity until DS2 was five months old. At that point I was disturbing him and I transitioned him to his cot very easily. I thought it would be a complete nightmare but the first night he fell asleep after 30ish minutes of whinging (with me checking him every five minutes) and slept until 4am when he wanted a feed.

Re the rolling, I fed DS til he was asleep then gently moved him into his back and rolled away myself, keeping my arm curled round him but not touching. Once he'd mastered rolling back and forward I stopped this.