Another 14 wk old who seems to be going backwards - advice pls!!!

[Lisa229]

Hi

Another one with a 14 wk old who seems to be gong backwards.

DD2 is 14wks and was sleeping from 7.30pm until 2/3am, having a feed and then sleeping until 6/7am. The last 3 nights she has woken earlier and earlier (1am, 12.30am and last night 11.30pm). It takes an hour of putting the dummy back in and then she eventually goes back to sleep for an hour or two before waking again for a feed. So she is obviously not hungry when she first wakes up in the night. And then waking more 6am than 7am! We swaddle her because she flails her arms quite a lot but she is always fighting to get out of the it.

Is this just a phase? I also worry that she is starting not to be able to get back to sleep unless she has the dummy or milk. But its too young to let her cry herself to sleep isn't it?

And has anyone not done a dream feed at first and then resorted to it and it working? We tried it for a few weeks when she was 3 or 4 weeks but it didn't work. Should I give it another go?

Sounds very much like a growth spurt.

Just feed as often and as much as necessary and it should pass.

Yvaine's right. It's a phase. It will pass. Feed her when she wakes and don't worry about the future. DD has been doing the same - I'd be panicking if I didn't know it was just a phase.

I have a 13wk old who did the same thing at 12wks. Nightmare but fingers crossed it is resolving.

So I should be feeding rather than trying to get her to go back to sleep? Because she doesn't seem to be taking anymore at the later feed when she wakes and surely she would if she was that hungry? She is ff so I know how much she has had

I am breastfeeding and I just fed her everytime. She ate and then went back to sleep immediately which made me think she was just hungry.

You just have to go with the flow and it will pass.

she may feel hungrier early on rather than at the later feed. Also bear in mind that 'back in the day' we were told to wean at 16 weeks, which pretty much coincides with the growth spurt they have around this time. So when my ds1 and 2 started this, I was told baby rice.
BY THE WAY IM NOT TELLING YOU TO WEAN just so we're all clear lol.
If it gets too much or you think there is something really wrong [sounds like a growth spurt imo] go to your h/v.
I did this with dd last year and she told me [you've guessed it] baby rice. Yours may suggest something else to get you through this bit.
good luck

I always feed through the bad sleep phases. Otherwise you're stuck trying to get them back to sleep when they may be peckish or even thirsty, and that's when a small feed will be all that's required. Or you could stick to battling with her for an hour before getting her to sleep again for another hour. And THEN feeding her!

She's 14 weeks - it's too early to be worrying about setting up bad habits. If it worries you (and it did me with DS), make sure that she settles herself to sleep at 7.30pm, and that you put her into the cot drowsy but awake after the night-feeds.