Should I put 6mo in her room which is on different level?

Lskz · 2020-12-08T08:58:00+00:00

Hi all, My 6mo’ sleep is terrible, currently she sleeps with us in her snuzpod. She wakes up with a slight sound like if we turn our sides and etc. White noise is constantly on, but not doing much to conceal the “noise”. I want to move to her own room, will be building her cot this weekend. My worry is we are on different levels( our room is converted loft) and won’t be able to react very quick and some fears over SIDS. There is no ground for SIDS tbh - she is happy baby in general, no underlying condition, smoke free home and etc. She is breastfed as well. When did you put your baby in his own room? Do I need to buy additional monitors like breath or movement( currently I’ve got a simple video one) to have a piece of mind or will I be worried for every move? Please share your stories, advice and thoughts. Thank you

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coles85 · 08/12/2020 11:13

It's quite a stress isn't it? Trying to figure out what's best for them and for you. I know I was worried about having to get up and down out of bed several times a night rather than just rolling over and picking them up from the next to me.

However what I found when we put our little one in their own room (at 6 months) was that they slept so much better! I think the next to me was hampering her need to move around and turn etc. I had a few sleepless nights worrying about her as she took to sleeping on her tummy which she'd never done in the next to me. However once I got over my own fears about that, we all settled much better.

I'd say invest in a video monitor, that way you can see if they're distressed or just having a little moan, and can react accordingly. Our baby is on the same floor as us, but we'd obviously be downstairs after she went to bed at 7ish until we went to bed later in the evening, so a significant part of our time was spent on a different floor to her bedroom. Really, it probably doesn't make too much of a difference that your little one is on a different floor, get a video monitor and give it a go!

Possibly try putting them down for daytime naps in their cot to get used to it? (I didn't do that FYI lol)

Good luck!

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Lskz · 08/12/2020 13:14

@coles85

It's quite a stress isn't it? Trying to figure out what's best for them and for you. I know I was worried about having to get up and down out of bed several times a night rather than just rolling over and picking them up from the next to me.

However what I found when we put our little one in their own room (at 6 months) was that they slept so much better! I think the next to me was hampering her need to move around and turn etc. I had a few sleepless nights worrying about her as she took to sleeping on her tummy which she'd never done in the next to me. However once I got over my own fears about that, we all settled much better.

I'd say invest in a video monitor, that way you can see if they're distressed or just having a little moan, and can react accordingly. Our baby is on the same floor as us, but we'd obviously be downstairs after she went to bed at 7ish until we went to bed later in the evening, so a significant part of our time was spent on a different floor to her bedroom. Really, it probably doesn't make too much of a difference that your little one is on a different floor, get a video monitor and give it a go!

Possibly try putting them down for daytime naps in their cot to get used to it? (I didn't do that FYI lol)

Good luck!

Thank you! Reassuring to know that they sleep better in their own room. We’ve got a video monitor but thought movement monitor or breath one would be better. I guess breath monitors are used for kids with breathing problems... Husband thinks I am too worried about those monitors and the video is enough.

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Todaytomorrow09 · 08/12/2020 13:20

I’m was on a different floor - we moved our daughter at 6 months - we had a monitor etc in place and I was still breastfeeding so occasionally needed to still feed at night. She slept much better! The only thing I wish I had done was put a chair or something in so I could sit with her when she was unsettled- I fell down the stairs once very tired going to see to an unsettled baby !

FudgeSundae · 08/12/2020 13:55

We moved baby into her own room on different floor to us at 5.5 months - I sleep with the video monitor next to me so I hear if she cries.
Re the breathing and SIDS monitors - when I looked into it I found zero scientific evidence that these had ever saved a child’s life. Doesn’t mean they don’t - SIDS is hard to study due to its (thankfully!) low prevalence, but there is no evidence yet. So do what you need to do to keep an eye on your little one, but bear in mind that it is for your peace of mind - not their safety.
(In fact snuzpods are much more dangerous from a SIDS perspective but I also quite understand why you might use one for a terrible sleeper...)

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Lskz · 08/12/2020 21:21

@Todaytomorrow09

I’m was on a different floor - we moved our daughter at 6 months - we had a monitor etc in place and I was still breastfeeding so occasionally needed to still feed at night. She slept much better! The only thing I wish I had done was put a chair or something in so I could sit with her when she was unsettled- I fell down the stairs once very tired going to see to an unsettled baby !

Omg, bless you. probably I will end up falling as well :) Thanks for the tip, a chair is good idea as I still feed her 2-3 times a night.

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Lskz · 08/12/2020 21:24

@FudgeSundae

We moved baby into her own room on different floor to us at 5.5 months - I sleep with the video monitor next to me so I hear if she cries. Re the breathing and SIDS monitors - when I looked into it I found zero scientific evidence that these had ever saved a child’s life. Doesn’t mean they don’t - SIDS is hard to study due to its (thankfully!) low prevalence, but there is no evidence yet. So do what you need to do to keep an eye on your little one, but bear in mind that it is for your peace of mind - not their safety. (In fact snuzpods are much more dangerous from a SIDS perspective but I also quite understand why you might use one for a terrible sleeper...)

Thank you! Haven’t known that Snuzpod is more dangerous, wondering why is that... I bought to have it as next to me crib but never used that feature. Apparently I cannot drag the kid to my bed

, too heavy.

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christinarossetti19 · 08/12/2020 21:31

Both of my babies slept better when they went into their own rooms at 6 months.

I'd give it a go. Having the baby in a different room to you at night takes a bit of getting used to whether the room is next door or down a flight of stairs.

Agree with having a chair in her bedroom and also a shawl to cover yourself with if you get cold while feeding.

FudgeSundae · 08/12/2020 21:57

With the snuzpod, it’s because it’s not a firm flat surface. So theoretically the baby could get their head wedged into the side and not be able to breathe. But the risk is v small and even smaller at 6 months as they have much better head control by then.

LividLoves · 08/12/2020 21:59

Think pp is confusing Snuzpod (sidecar cot) with Sleepyhead (dangerous bed nest).

Pipandmum · 08/12/2020 22:04

Own rooms from day one, also on a different floor. We had a baby monitor. In the first few months I woke them for a sleepy feed before I went to bed then again if they woke up for a feed around 2 or 3, so they were checked on. Unless people are going to bed at the same time as their babies I don't see the difference between baby sleeping on its own in your room from say 7.30 to 11pm, and it sleeping in its own room all night.

LividLoves · 08/12/2020 22:13

Sorry @Pipandmum but that’s dangerous advice. Sleeping alone is known to elevate SIDS risk for reasons that aren’t fully understood. Baby monitors won’t help if baby stops breathing.

ClammedupClam · 08/12/2020 22:17

We put my older DD in her own room at 6 months, and it was on a different floor. I don't really think being on a different floor made any difference, apart from having to navigate stairs in the dark (I also have multiple mental plans of what I would do if there was a fire in different locations!). She was a terrible sleeper, and it definitely did not improve her sleep! But it did mean whichever of us wasn't dealing with her in the night could sleep properly, so it was easier to work in shifts which helped. I don't think I was really worried SIDs risk would be increased by her being on a different floor after 6 months, as opposed to just in a different room. And on occasion the monitor failed, and I still woke when she cried out - I think most people are pretty in tune to their children crying.

My DS is 6 months but is still in with us. He is a slightly better sleeper. He wakes a few times but tends to go back down pretty easily. I find just having him in our room so I'm not roaming the house is better, as he barely wakes up to feed and neither do I! But again, I think I would have made the same decision regardless of the floor situation.

That's my complicated way of saying I think your baby's individual sleep patterns probably dictate what works best for you, rather than worrying too much about the floors thing.

FudgeSundae · 09/12/2020 06:44

@LividLoves

Think pp is confusing Snuzpod (sidecar cot) with Sleepyhead (dangerous bed nest).

I am! Sorry! Thanks for correcting me.

movingonup20 · 09/12/2020 07:14

To be honest with dd1 I had no choice to keep her with us (1 bed flat until she was 1) , with Dd2 I tried to move her into her bedroom at 6 months but she ended up staying with us (cosleeping) because she fed 3+ times in the night. I personally wouldn't use a room on a different floor until they regularly sleep through the night for safety reasons, your safety on the stairs sleepy at night!

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Lskz · 09/12/2020 22:05

Thanks a lot for everyone, will try to put her separate and see how it goes. Thanks for sharing.

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Popgoesthebubble · 10/12/2020 20:29

Different floor is no different from most babies in the evening before you go to bed, and day time naps.

I'd perhaps have a simple back up audio monitor (also useful if you go away and there is no WiFi), as it's less likely that both would fail you at the same time, and personally I find them louder - and then I can check the video.

lambo88 · 10/12/2020 20:38

We live in a 3 storey house hun and our bedroom is on the top floor...never had a problem with our little boy being on the level below...we don't disturb him much as we have an en suite...we moved him into his own bedroom at nearly 7 months...if we ever had another child I would definitely move them into there own bedroom at a younger age as he knew summat was going on...we have a monitor and I no angel care do a cover that sounds an alarm if they stop breathing etc xx

QforCucumber · 10/12/2020 20:38

Weve just started with ds. Hes 6 months this week. He goes down at 7:30 in his own room but when he wakes (around midnight) i bring him in to ours ( we are just across the landing though) I almost fell asleep in the chair with him the 1st night so for now this works