I am so sorry to be posting on here for traffic and ideas.
DD4 is healthy and bright. No other issues. Aside from COVID obviously and out of nursery school activities being cancelled no massive upheavals. She was 4 in September so narrowly missed out on going to school.
DD4 WILL NOT go to sleep in her own bed. I've tried controlled crying, super nanny techniques, gradual retreat, staying with her until she falls asleep and nothing has worked- the screaming just gets louder and she gets more hysterical and then she wakes up her sister. Its 22.30 and she is still up and I've been in her room willing her to go to sleep. Last night was a one off and I fell asleep whilst reading to her and so did she. She sleeps with the light on, if its dark there is no hope, she says she is scared but doesn't know what of when I ask her. She wakes up about 3 times a night to come and get in bed with me and DH. Often we are both so exhausted we don't notice or I put her back and wake up in her single bed whilst shes stretched out in my bed. No behaviour or issues at nursery.
Im at the end of my tether tonight. I am so tired by the weekend that I have no energy to do anything for myself or my family. We have no time to ourselves to be a couple as its spent taking it in turns with DD4 in the evenings. Help.