Newborn will not sleep in her own cot

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Wondering if anyone can share any tips to help me.

My LO is nearly 4 weeks old and so far has only slept in her cot once.

I have no problem getting her to sleep - in fact, she breastfeeds and sleeps really well when held by myself (I know this is normal because she finds it comforting etc). As soon as I put her into her Snuzpod however, her eyes open straight away and she fidgets, fussed and cry's until I pick her up.

I've tried swaddling, putting a hot water bottle in her bed before she goes so it's not cold and I've even tried a white noise machine.

My LO also doesn't seem to enjoy her Dads company or efforts to sooth her when she's crying so it's been quite hard doing everything, from bathing her to feeding on demand (breastfeeding). This is mainly caused by her Dad not being able to see her for four days after she was born due to the virus and my hospitals visitor policies. He wasn't able to have a chance to do skin to skin when she was born. All this on top of moving house and sorting storage and tenancy contracts is really starting to take its toll mainly as I'm not getting a chance to sleep or rest with her needing to be with me all the time. My partner works evenings/nights.

Has anyone got any tips on how to keep her asleep in her cot?

I could really really do with some sleep - thanks in advance! 💓

I put my DC in her moses basket in her cot then she threw up in the basket so I had no option for her to sleep in her cot. Next to my bed. You have to persevere. No point putting them in cot one night not the next. No point continuing to pick them up if they fuss... When they fuss put hand on them but keep them in the cot. They will settle. Might take a bit time.

Can you sidecar the city to your bed so you can fall asleep holding her hand. Mine used to copy me as I shut my eyes when she was little. As she’s still so young it’s also a god excuse for you to get precious extra sleep. DH could still do skin to skin too, so he and baby learn each other’s smell.

This is normal. She wants to be close to you. It won't last for long. Read up on the 4th trimester.

Would second that this is totally normal, part of the 4th trimester. Have a look into a sidecar cot. Young babies have a startle reflex when they are put down, so you need to get them to sleep where they are sleeping- cosleeping safely via a sidecar cot will let you do that. You then ninja roll away or go to sleep next to your little one.

Has her dad tried skin to skin since then?

DH didn't at birth/ til after we were home and that was non-covid times.

It takes time for a baby to bond with daddy- they don't have milk and in biological terms, wouldn't have a lot to do with the process.

No tricks here... DD1 was a super needy baby (try checking needy baby online). I spent HOURS walking around the bedroom to get her to sleep soundly before putting her in her crib. It's like she could smell it!! Not worth the tiredness! She just slept on my bed and that was it. Even naps were difficult. I do miss our afternoon naps together I'm pregnant with my 3rd and those are impossible with another child in the house.

When she was a little older she went to nursery and they used to put her asleep by rocking her back and forth in the pushchair. You can try that maybe...

You should try to get her dad to bond with her. That's important. Don't remember DD1 minding whose arms she was in. She preferred me of course.

4th trimester.
Google it, helps explain a lot.
Totally normal for her to want to be near/on you all the time.