Co-sleepers

[Bagpusstree]

Hi everyone,
Obviously I am on this board because of a lack of sleep! I have a 16 week old son, who is an angel apart from his sleeping habits. He naps well in the day, but won't sleep longer than 2-3 hours at night, and when it gets to early morning wakes 1/2 hourly to hourly - usually for dummy to be replaced. I often give in and put him in bed with us, where he sleeps beautifully! So, question is for those who have co-slept - how easy was it to wean them off of it eventually? Does it create yet another problem to have to overcome? I thought I would keep him in his cot until the early morning, and put him in with me as soon as he starts the regular waking bit. Do you think this would make him want to co-sleep all the time??

Any thoughts appreciated.

BPT.

I found my daughter naturally wanted her independence at about 18 months and went into a normal single bed for about half the week. She was dead proud of her bed. She is now 3 and a half and comes in to our bed as and when she wants, usually if she is ill or unhappy for some reason or in a cuddly mood.

Hi Bagpusstree

I co-slept with both my daughters. I would put my daughters down in their own cot at the begining of the night and when they woke up I would bring them into bed with me or go into the spare room. Gradually they began to sleep longer and longer at night and now they sleep in their own room and cot all night with only the occassional wake up.
I still them into bed in the morning if I really need to catch up on sleep and the eldest is 3yrs old.
16 weeks is still very young and he is only just learning to go to sleep on his own.

My DS was like this - he is so happy co-sleeping and I am quite soft and want him to be happy so I have let him do it. He is 18 months and I don't know how I will be able to persuade him to stop!

no direct answers but
remember that more people are doing exactly the same thing as you to get a good night's sleep they either don't talk about it or lie.

when a need (the need to be near you) is met, the need goes away. a study of american kids who lived in military housing showed that as young men, the boys who coslept were more independent and faced less behavioural issues in school.

cv-slept with ds from 4 months till 16 months, it was the only way to get him to sleep the whole night, we all loved it tbh.

doing the same with dd, although she goes to sleep in her own cot and joins us when she feels the need - about midnight usually, though sometimes not till 4am.

ds naturally found a time when it felt right to stop, for all of us, he was getting very big and we were all disturbing each other. we just told him what was going to happen and it took a few nights of repeated night visits but was resolved within a week.

I co slept with dd1 from 2 weeks until 13 months and only gave up because she had us up all night wanting to play and we were both working and it was disturbing us all.

She went into a cot in her own room and it took a couple of nights before she got the message.

Now with dd1 20 weeks on fri.. well she sleeps badly whether I co sleep or not lol. She is a nightmare .

we coslept till ds was about 14 months(i think) he outgrew it before we did!i wanted to continue but was obvious he didnt!it really is a lovely thing to doim so glad we did!

my ds is 14months and we have been co-sleeping since he was a few weeks old. Found that when he is in our bed he always sleeps better. For about the first 10 months i tried to get him to sleep in his cot - was worried he would never learn to fall asleep himself - but he always ended up in our bed at some point during the night and then we all got some sleep. Since then he has slept well, sometimes we get 12 hours! He does wake now and then - but its always cos somethings up - teething, illness, etc. Must admit sometimes think that he'll never transition to his own bed, but that generally happens when family make negative comments about us cosleeping. Also i have problems with getting him to nap so usually take him for a ride in the car.