Am I creating a problem

[Rosebel]

My baby sleeps best on me. He loves to lie on me and sleep. Since I'm battling some depression issues I love this as it feels like the one time my baby really loves me.
This week my husband said I should stop and put him in his basket to sleep or it'll create problems at nursery and when he's older.
He'll only be doing mornings at nursery so probably won't sleep there much and nursery is another 5 months away. He's only 8 weeks at the moment.
Now I'm worried about creating an issue with his sleep. Is cuddling to sleep a bad idea? He doesn't rely on it totally and sometimes settles on his own but my husband thinks if I keep cuddling him he'll lose the skill to settle on his own.
Should I start putting him down and just ignore the times he cries? Or is my way okay? Starting to doubt my parenting skills all the time now.

Do you have help for your MH? I wish I’d sought this much sooner.

Cuddling to sleep is fine.

But if you’re often sitting down for many hours in the daytime with the baby sleeping on you that’s not ideal IME (I sometimes did this) for your own physical and mental wellbeing. Also a risk of you falling asleep, especially at night, which is a safety risk. (I experienced this).

If you’re co sleeping, obvs important to observe the safety tips.

Would reflect on your DP’s motivation. Could be concern for you, his view as co-parent that it’d be better for your DC to learn to sleep in a crib early, or for more selfish reasons (eg jealousy). Or a mix!

At eight weeks he’s still a tiny, tiny baby. He needs his mum. As he gets older you can consider options for getting him to sleep independently but right now he’s doing what he needs to be taken care of. And you are doing absolutely the right thing as it sounds like it is working for both of you.

Google the fourth trimester where is talks about the first 12 weeks of baby’s life as needing to mimic the womb. That way you can show your husband and get him onboard.

They grow so quickly- enjoy the snuggles!

Just to add - Dozer is completely correct re risks of falling asleep. I assumed you were putting him down once he’s called asleep. Can you put one of your t shirts in a Moses basket and have it next to you to place him in?

An 8 week old baby is far too small to be left to cry, and it's very normal for them to need contact in order to go to sleep. I really wouldn't worry; by the time your baby goes to nursery he'll have been through numerous shifts and regressions in his sleep pattern - how he is now is not how he'll be then! So long as you're following safe sleep guidelines and not sleeping yourself while he's resting on you, then I don't see any issues here. For your own mental health, though, it would be really good to be getting some exercise, so maybe you could work some sling/pram naps in there, and take a walk (if that's not something you're doing at the moment)?

My DS is 2 1/2 now. I cuddled him to sleep until he started nursery, and I still let him fall asleep on me when I put him to bed sometimes. He's a good sleeper,and sleeps fine at nursery most of the time, unless there is something more interesting happening.

Once he was sound asleep I placed him in his basket/cot though. For the first few weeks of his life we swaddled him, which seemed to help him sleep, if you're struggling to put baby down, and you want to do so, that is worth a try. But there is nothing wrong with baby sleeping on you provided it's done safely. Make sure you're following the safe sleep guidelines, and you will be fine, as will baby.

Cuddling to sleep is perfect for you and baby. If you’re bed sharing then look at the lullaby trust safe 7 rules. For me there is not much better in life than sleeping with your children.

My oldest was cuddled to sleep or rocked in the pram when she went to nursery they rocked her in her pram for the first couple of weeks and then got her to nap in a cot. Nursery staff have sleep magic - she still cuddled to sleep at home. DD2 isn’t going to nursery but at 12 months she is feed to sleep or sometimes pushed in the pram.