when did you start settling your dc upstairs in the evening rather than keeping them downstairs with you

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ds2 10 weeks old

cannot muster the energy to come up with a strategy for convincing him 7pm is bedtime

he's asleep in a bouncy chair in front of me right now

oddly, he'll settle in his cot like a dream after his 10pm feed, but when i tried the same at 7pm one night last week it was Bad

rememebr spending many an hour settlin ds1 upstairs. do not have the energy or enthusiasm to the same again with ds2

No. 1 about 6 weeks, no. 2 about 7 months and no. 3 is 19 months and still downstairs with us every evening. He is a dreamboat though, and falls asleep on our laps. When he was smaller we left him on our lap until we went up, now we pop him up into his cot once he's asleep. The other two would never have settled downstairs for such a long time though.

So, it's a combination of him being a very easy baby and us being knackered 3rd time parents who can't be bothered to sort out a routine. I'd much rather sit on the sofa watching TV than faff around upstairs for half the evening.

Can't remember the details but much older than 10 weeks with all of them. I think by the age of about six months DS1 was sleeping in his own room with an 8 p.m. bedtime. The other two were probably a bit older (and DS3 in particular was awful).

DD - approx 3 months old. I felt I 'had to' because that's what 'everyone else' was doing .

DS - I realised that actually it was up to me if I wanted to keep my sleepy cuddly baby with me in the evening, so only started putting him in his cot at bed time when he was about 6 months old.

Thanks massivebigpantsface, that's a very kind offer, but I'll see if the library has it first to save you the hassle

i think they stayed downstairs ntil they were too old for the moses basket - how old is that 12 weeks ish?

DD 15 weeks and we only occasionally do it now, it's just so much easier having her in the living room with us if she isn't settling. Though if we think she is getting disturbed we put her in out bedroom, but then we only live in a flat. I did worry that we 'should' be putting her in our bedroom, but now don't care what anyone else thinks!

I also loved The Baby Whisperer!

Started all sleeps after 7pm upstairs from day one and a proper night time routine at 4 weeks.

Honestly I think it depends on your baby, I have friends who have tried as early as I did and and found it didn't work for them.

Am 16 weeks pg with dc2 at the mo and under no illusions that it will be as easy next time round!

From the word go - would bring them downstairs for a feed, but tried to get them into the bath/bed routine asap.

From birth, my ds wouldn't go to proper sleep until 11ish until he was about 10 weeks and then all of a sudden we found he wasn't waking to be fed at 9pm and then he started to go to bed at 7 with a feed at 11. It was a relief! There is a book I read (afterwards, sadly, called healthy sleep, happy child which says that this is completely normal, so don't worry too much.