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4 month sleep nightmare - go with the flow?

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Skyblue82 · 30/07/2020 09:11

We’re just about to enter week 5 of what I think is the 4 month sleep regression. My DD is 19 weeks and has been waking up every 1–2hrs each night after about 11pm and then is awake for the day at 5 😑

She was a decent sleeper to begin with and sucks her thumb so puts herself to sleep at all nap times and when she goes to bed at 7. So this is what is confusing me! Everything I have read seems to say that you need to teach them to self sooth to stop the multiple wakes ups, but she can!! She just chooses not to between 11pm-5am! She naps fairly well in the day, goes down 1hr 45 mins after waking each time and has 1 or 2 long naps and 1 or 2 short naps depending on what she feels like doing. In fact the week the regression started she started taking longer 90min or 2hr naps. This also confused me as I thought naps were meant to shorten during the regression?

I have been feeding her each time she wakes as it’s the quickest way to put her back to sleep. So I wonder if I’ve caused some kind of nighttime boob addiction! If you try and settle her it turns into crying fairly quickly. We have DD1 age 3 who is just next door and we’re very conscious of not waking her up.

I guess I’m wondering if I should just go with the flow and hope it sorts itself out or should I be trying to do something about it. I don’t really want it to involve crying at this stage as I’m not ok with that, plus we have our DD1 to consider.

We are planning on moving DD1 into a new bedroom at the end of August which is further away. We can then move DD2 out of our room and into the room next door. We’re wondering if this will make a difference.

If you’ve made it to the end of this long ramble thank you 🙏

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Alovelycupoftea88 · 30/07/2020 10:52

Haven’t got much advise but in a similar situation with my 20-week old. I would say that it’s great she is able to put herself to sleep for naps! Daytime sleep is a battle for us at the moment. One thing I have found is that he’s growing really quickly and so is very hungry - the more I feed him, the better he sleeps. My health visitor said often the sleep gets better after weaning so there is hope! Like you I’m trying to just go with the flow right now even though it’s exhausting. If I try to be too rigid with sleep routines he just ends up screaming and we both get stressed. 🤞 we get some sleep soon!

Alovelycupoftea88 · 30/07/2020 10:53

Sorry, *advice. (I can blame sleep deprivation for any other spelling errors...)

Skyblue82 · 30/07/2020 12:21

🤞🤞🤞 I really hope so! It’s exhausting isn’t it... my first one was a great sleeper so this is all a bit of a nasty shock!

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