Feel exhausted don't know what to do

[becca3210]

Hi all. My 15wk old baby has hit the regression. At the moment I breast feed him to sleep wait 20mins to transfer him to snuzpod attached to bed and then within ten minutes he is awake and screaming. We repeated this until 3am when I gave up and we co-slept for the rest of the night. I understand he is looking for comfort and would never leave him to cry. I understand co-sleeping can be safe but I don't want to do it. Partner not currently involved in night routine. Wondering what option is best - a) continue trying to get him to sleep in snuzpod before resorting to co-sleeping as this is what I want in the hope that we will get there b) accept that he wants to be on me and just co-sleep from the beginning c) start expressing and getting partner to help with some night feeds - though baby not used to bottle and think advice is to not change too much during a regression. Any thoughts welcome!

@becca3210 - didn’t want to read and run! For me, the regressions are all about survival and sort it out later. I would do whatever you’ve got to do to get him to sleep as much as he can (and as much as you can!) so I guess that would either be option B.
Not sure what C would do for you if he wakes up instantly after putting him down anyway?
Also,‘is it definitely the regression and not just him being more aware of his surroundings now so when he’s put down asleep, he wakes more?
I know you shouldn’t change a routine in a regression, but is there a way you can feed to drowsy and then put in the Snuzpod with a dummy to get to sleep, or pat shush?

I'm a big fan of co sleeping. Saved my sanity with my little sleep stealer. If I were you I'd look up safe co-sleeping. Particularly if you plan to continue breastfeeding. People say you make a rod for your own back but that's not my experience- we co-slept on and off (mainly with teething upsets etc) until she was around 12 months. She's 3 now and I try and coax her into our bed sometimes e.g. if she wakes too early but she doesn't want to know about sleeping with us.

Thank you both!

How come you dont want to co sleep? Its only temporary. If youre exhausted you need to sleep. Your baby is exhausted and needs you to be able to sleep

@becca3210 - good luck I know it’s tough but honestly, babies change so much (including what they respond to) so even if you co-sleep for a bit, it can be reversed.

@Branleuse

How come you dont want to co sleep? Its only temporary. If youre exhausted you need to sleep. Your baby is exhausted and needs you to be able to sleep

We only have a smallish double bed so not enough room for all three of us. Also I don't sleep as well.

[quote ELW85]@becca3210 - good luck I know it’s tough but honestly, babies change so much (including what they respond to) so even if you co-sleep for a bit, it can be reversed.[/quote]
Thank you!

What we did for the sleep regression was work out how many hours DD could comfortably go without BF (3, FYI) and if she woke up before 3 hours had gone by, it was DH's job to settle her. Once it had been 3 hours, I'd feed her again and settle her. Lasted a fortnight.

@Bitchinkitchen

What we did for the sleep regression was work out how many hours DD could comfortably go without BF (3, FYI) and if she woke up before 3 hours had gone by, it was DH's job to settle her. Once it had been 3 hours, I'd feed her again and settle her. Lasted a fortnight.

Thank you sounds a good plan