Hate night time

[Rosebel]

Does anyone else hate the night time? I don't get a lot of sleep, usually 3 broken hours and last night I was sitting up with my baby crying because I'm so tired.
I know he's only a baby but god I'm so fed up of night time. As soon as it gets to about 9 I dread it. My husband goes to bed at 10 and then I'm on my own.
Baby is always unsettled in the evening and rarely sleeps before 4 in the morning. He sleeps in the day and I can't keep him awake. I'm sure if he slept less in the day he'd be better at night but he won't stay awake.
I hate staying up feeling so tired and feel so frustrated. Unfortunately I keep taking my mood out on my husband and I know it's not his fault.
I'm just so desperate for a decent night's sleep.

Gosh yes I remember that feeling of dread creeping in as the evening wore on! I could have asked partner to do more, but as I was breastfeeding he could never really settle him and so I'd be awake anyway and then we'd both be super grumpy in the morning! In hindsight that phase didn't last long, how old is your baby?

He's only 7 weeks and I think there is a part of me worrying that it will carry on for at least another 5 months (I know it could go on for years but I can’t bear to think about that).
My husband does Saturday night but if he cries I usually wake up anyway..

From what you say it sounds like he has his nights and day mixed up, which should start to sort itself out soon. It might be that he feels more secure in the daytime when it's noisy and there's lots going on, have you tried white noise or a radio at night? From my experience sleep goes through phases of better and worse, sometimes you can do things that help, sometimes you just need to go with it and wait for baby to grow into the next stage. And get as much help as you can in the day so you can rest!

Oh god I know exactly what you mean. And it's so frustrating when partners are confused as to why you're such a grump when they're getting so much sleep compared to you. You'll be over emotional and erratic and not thinking straight- not sleeping messes with your brain more than anything else you'll ever experience so don't be hard on yourself for being a grump with him sometimes.
Also, my baby is 10 weeks old and for the past few nights he's been sleeping from 10-6. At 7 weeks he was the same as your baby, so please have faith! Your baby sounds like they need to get their circadian rythym sorted so plenty of background noise and light in the daytime and pitch black at night time maybe with some REALLY loud white noise playing from a speaker.
Good luck 💐

It's really horrible and I sympathise completely. For me and my son it carried on until 11 months ish. He still wakes every 2 hours now at 17 months but has started doing 4-5 hour stretches once or twice a week. They do get there as hard as it is!

Just wanted to say I get this completely - I used to dread the nights because as soon as she went to sleep I'd worry about how long it would be for! I found it gradually got better, she's nearly 7 months now and from about 5 months she's gone to sleep for a solid chunk from about 7pm. From about 12 weeks she was asleep earlier, from about 10pm but those early weeks are just so hard. Be kind to yourself and just take it one day at a time, it does get easier, you will sleep again.

Thanks for the replies. It does feel like he has his days and nights mixed up although I'm trying to make it lighter and noisier in the day and dark and quiet at night.
I will try the white nosies though.
I feel guilty dreading the night because he's so little. I keep telling myself he will sleep through in the end but the exhaustion is hard to deal with.

Don’t feel guilty for dreading the nights, it’s hellish. My baby is also 7 weeks old and won’t go down to sleep in his cot (at all). I have to either wear him in a carrier during the day or co-sleep at night (which I hate). I weep with exhaustion sometimes. But it will pass, my DD was exactly the same and I remember thinking I would never sleep again but I did (though I won’t lie, it took her 10 months to sleep through!). It’s horrible but things will improve quicker than you think they will. Now I just need to take my own advice.....

Exhaustion is horrendous and one of the worst things I've dealt with, so don't feel guilty. But somehow we mums manage to just get through it! I have no idea how I did, it got particularly awful at 6 months but now he's 17 months and although it's not much better it is bearable. Hopefully your little one will sleep through soon xx